"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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rsxy

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What do you do when you know that the relationship you're in will eventually fall to pieces?

Heres some background......

Ive been in an LTR for 2 years now, the girl is great, we get along amazingly well and there are basically no real problems with our relationship right now. THe problem comes looking into the future. Our goals and aspirations will take us on completely different paths, I want to be free to travel and move to different cities (I am just finishing an international business degree) she wants the typical small house near her parents with 2.2 kids and a dog and a white picket fence (which is my nightmare situation). There are also religious differences which she says would cause problems if I wasnt the same religion as her later in life.

Basically to make a long story short, I am moving to another city in August, she had planned to come along. Now I am realizing that we are not going to be together forever, theres no chance of that. Should I call it off now, wait a few months, have some great sex until I leave and then part ways, or should I go along with her moving in and drag out the end for a couple years???


Thanks for any insights you can provide.

One more thing....... I am going to be in a new school working on my the end of my degree, do you feel that being in a LTR makes you miss out on the university / college experience of meeting new girls and exploring things?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Make a clean break and tell her why. You're future goals are going in totally different directions and you'll end up making each other miserable. There is no reason to draw that out and waste valuable time. It's going to be painful and ugly, but it's better you break up now than later.
 

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if you enjoy her company and YOU want to stay with her, then stay with her and break up when you are no longer compatible. Who knows, she might change her mind. However, do not let her change YOUR mind. Follow your dream.
 

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Thanks, that helps. It does sound like good advice. I know that my goals and future should not be changed by anyone and I will keep working towards them. :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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