"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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rsxy

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What do you do when you know that the relationship you're in will eventually fall to pieces?

Heres some background......

Ive been in an LTR for 2 years now, the girl is great, we get along amazingly well and there are basically no real problems with our relationship right now. THe problem comes looking into the future. Our goals and aspirations will take us on completely different paths, I want to be free to travel and move to different cities (I am just finishing an international business degree) she wants the typical small house near her parents with 2.2 kids and a dog and a white picket fence (which is my nightmare situation). There are also religious differences which she says would cause problems if I wasnt the same religion as her later in life.

Basically to make a long story short, I am moving to another city in August, she had planned to come along. Now I am realizing that we are not going to be together forever, theres no chance of that. Should I call it off now, wait a few months, have some great sex until I leave and then part ways, or should I go along with her moving in and drag out the end for a couple years???


Thanks for any insights you can provide.

One more thing....... I am going to be in a new school working on my the end of my degree, do you feel that being in a LTR makes you miss out on the university / college experience of meeting new girls and exploring things?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Make a clean break and tell her why. You're future goals are going in totally different directions and you'll end up making each other miserable. There is no reason to draw that out and waste valuable time. It's going to be painful and ugly, but it's better you break up now than later.
 

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if you enjoy her company and YOU want to stay with her, then stay with her and break up when you are no longer compatible. Who knows, she might change her mind. However, do not let her change YOUR mind. Follow your dream.
 

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Thanks, that helps. It does sound like good advice. I know that my goals and future should not be changed by anyone and I will keep working towards them. :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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