Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
hmm.. definitely makes sense. Come to think about it, you are right. Thanks for enlightning meOriginally posted by the_reader
lol well try not to ask questions in the conversation, but tell stories and make jokes. I know what you mean, some girls just give you quick short replies, in that case I usually just loose interest in talking to them and move on.
There's a girl at school, she actively seeks me out and says "hi" and tries to get my attention, but for the life of me we can't have a conversation, she always just gives really short answers. She's HB8 too, so i feel bad giving her the "next"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Thats a good one,I will add another response as well. "howcome you dont talk so much? Iam not that intimidating am I? The last chick I talked to asked me for my autograph, and then ran off to her girl friends who were all blushing. You know its hard to find someone who can hold a conversion. You can hold a conversation cant you?"Originally posted by Ace of Flames
bust her balls on it.
"why are your answers so short? got something to hide? i bet your in the witness protection program or something. yea, thats the only logical explaination. i mean, if not that, then what? you're talking to me, how could you NOT want to say all thats on your mind?"
use what she gives you. in this case, its short answers. oh, and if she really IS in the witness protection program, well... she'll be moved again before long. cant have people knowing her secret.