Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What do you do when someone you dont like tries to shake your hand?

sosousage

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Lets say someone you dont like, or someone who talks bs about you, pulls out hand and tries to shake yours.

do you just shake his hand and answer his words or talk or whatever or do you tell him to fug off


i had countless situations where worthless people tried to shake my hand, and I usually go with it out of habit, but i dont really want to

on the other hand when someone pulls his hand out and you just stand there without reacting thats weird too lol
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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MatureDJ

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The ritual of shaking of hands developed as a way to showing the other that you both are not holding weapons. Thus, unless you hate the guy so much that you want to coldcock him, you should shake.

I'm sure these 2 hated each other, but they still shook hands:

 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Poonani Maker

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just do what Rhonda did here at the end and not shake his hand
 

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Just nod which says "I acknowledge you are there, but that's it"
 

Black Widow Void

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This is an awkward one for sure.
I've calmly and politely refused, stating; "a handshake is a gesture that means something to me. Some of its meaning would be lost, if I accepted your overture."
No matter how you refuse, it will not go over well (at least mine hasn't). It's awkward for sure, but if I had conformed, I would have left.. feeling less proud of myself.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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gettinit

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Give them a crush squeeze. I did it to a guy who was hitting on my girl when I wasn't around, but would act all friendly with me. Watching his face contort was priceless. My girl at the time thought so too haha.
 
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