Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Sarging is running game to pick up (or at least attempt to pick up) women.irocknike23 said:what does sarging mean?
This is solid advice.ThreeStorms said:If you are a shy guy and plan to go on your own, I'd suggest visiting or at least calling a good friend, have a good conversation and some laughs. Makes you much more social when you enter the scene.
Haha, I like it! The Song that is. I always listen to loud music in my car before I sarge. It's usually heavy metal, but sometimes it's rap or laid back stuff.Mike32ct said:Sarging is running game to pick up (or at least attempt to pick up) women.
I believe the term originally came from Ross Jeffries. Originally, the term was limited to picking women using Ross' methods. But over time, the term evolved in the Community. Currently, the term sarging is used to mean picking up women using ANY method (or no method if you use purely unstructured natural game).
Getting back to the OP's question, before going out sarging, I recommend listening to music that gets you in "game mode." For example, it could be club music that gets you in the mood to go out.
Or listen to the sarging song somebody did...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-N2os74Mdc