"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What do you do if she is gay

Ballie57

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I had a date with Vanessa - which went off well. When we first met, she told me she was gay. But went out with me for breakfast and she paid.

Now, I'm keen to fvck her and asked for another date in Durban the next time I went there.

Her reply sms "Hey G***o - do you remember me telling you that I am gay!?"
Me: ":) yes, but you also love men"
She: "vou sadly mistaken :) "

Me: hour later "well a threesome would be cool ;) "

I am stumped now - next or what?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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aaand don't even bother going any further. there is a huge difference between gay and bi.
 

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Hi Ballie,
Great to see you posting...Not much future in this Lady old chap...just slide out gracefully and look for more...Good Luck!
 

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especially with the threesome comment... she has heard that one a million times from pretty much every bloke she has told that she was gay hahha... go find your self some Bisexual strange bro.

had a Bi GF once... and lets just say she had a few hot lil mates she liked to play with and she is a girl that didn't mind sharing her toys ;)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ballie57 said:
I had a date with Vanessa - which went off well. When we first met, she told me she was gay. But went out with me for breakfast and she paid.

Now, I'm keen to fvck her and asked for another date in Durban the next time I went there.

Her reply sms "Hey G***o - do you remember me telling you that I am gay!?"
Me: ":) yes, but you also love men"
She: "vou sadly mistaken :) "

Me: hour later "well a threesome would be cool ;) "

I am stumped now - next or what?
You had a "date" with a gay girl. Duh.
 

Ballie57

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Not much future in this Lady old chap...just slide out gracefully and look for more...Good Luck!
Thank's mate I will do so - after all, the thrill is in the hunt. At least she paid for the breakfast and didn't flake on me. Notch it up to experience old chap, I should of taken Zoey on her offer at Toti.

You had a "date" with a gay girl. Duh.
Duh! to you too Zonder. What's wrong with dating feminine gay chicks - maybe she might be bi - who knows? After all, I'm also lesbian - I just love women!
 

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Dear Ballie,
"I should of taken Zoey on her offer"...Yup I have two golden rules,maxims if you like,that I live by....In business if someone offers you money,take it,you never know when things might go Pear shaped....With Love,never knock an offer back,ever!...The one you miss out on,is one you will never have!....I am getting a bit jaded with Asians,I need to communicate more,have a few laughs...so I am going round for rack of Lamb and all the trimmings on Sunday with a Polish Cougar....it wants me to meet the Family LOL...This one works out,has a better pair than Marilyn Monroe...not quite the invitation to take tea and meet Mother,but its a start!
 

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Personally if a girl tells me she's gay or alludes that she might be more bi than straight I will bail immediately. That's a real recipe for disaster, if you think straight girls are flaky and weird...
 

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Obviously this particular girl is not into you.

But generally speaking, "I don't believe in labels" is both what I think and what I would say straightaway. I've never met a truly gay woman who wasn't bull dyke-ish in a way that would not be attractive to men in the first place. If a girl is attractive, she will in all likelihood have had sex with men at some point in her life, and the label she puts on herself at this particular moment is irrelevant to the possibility of her having sex with you.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If there was attraction on the date, that was a shiit test, you should have plowed through. I'd there wasn't attraction, then she's being straight up with you. Either way you didn't pass the test and you sealed your fate with a three some comment. Do you think that line would have worked on a straight girl
 

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Obviously this particular girl is not into you.

But generally speaking, "I don't believe in labels" is both what I think and what I would say straightaway. I've never met a truly gay woman who wasn't bull dyke-ish in a way that would not be attractive to men in the first place. If a girl is attractive, she will in all likelihood have had sex with men at some point in her life, and the label she puts on herself at this particular moment is irrelevant to the possibility of her having sex with you.
I think you hit the nail on the head. In the past, "Gay" feminine women let me kiss them feel the boobs etc - but not have sex with them (she had AIDs - as I found out later.) Her dyke friend wanted to beat me up LOL.

Vanessa is attractive - but she is not into me. I need to find a bird that is prepared to nest at Tramore for six months. That is difficult for the city women - since the farm is very remote and isolated. Oh well, I need to hunt for a local lass - maybe the vet's nurse Ashton?

Well, going to a jol in Kokstad (not c0ckstand :)) this weekend and let's see what happens....
 

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Hey dudes - a bit drunk now and tried to fvck her hamster brain. following Roissey's advice

If there was attraction on the date, that was a shiit test, you should have plowed through. I'd there wasn't attraction, then she's being straight up with you. Either way you didn't pass the test and you sealed your fate with a three some comment. Do you think that line would have worked on a straight girl
Naw, she is a c0ck teaser - kept on winking at me all the time we first met,
so i sent her this text:

2 @ 8====> ..... in reply - back to Durbs in a months time.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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