"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What do you do if she is gay

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I had a date with Vanessa - which went off well. When we first met, she told me she was gay. But went out with me for breakfast and she paid.

Now, I'm keen to fvck her and asked for another date in Durban the next time I went there.

Her reply sms "Hey G***o - do you remember me telling you that I am gay!?"
Me: ":) yes, but you also love men"
She: "vou sadly mistaken :) "

Me: hour later "well a threesome would be cool ;) "

I am stumped now - next or what?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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aaand don't even bother going any further. there is a huge difference between gay and bi.
 

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Hi Ballie,
Great to see you posting...Not much future in this Lady old chap...just slide out gracefully and look for more...Good Luck!
 

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especially with the threesome comment... she has heard that one a million times from pretty much every bloke she has told that she was gay hahha... go find your self some Bisexual strange bro.

had a Bi GF once... and lets just say she had a few hot lil mates she liked to play with and she is a girl that didn't mind sharing her toys ;)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ballie57 said:
I had a date with Vanessa - which went off well. When we first met, she told me she was gay. But went out with me for breakfast and she paid.

Now, I'm keen to fvck her and asked for another date in Durban the next time I went there.

Her reply sms "Hey G***o - do you remember me telling you that I am gay!?"
Me: ":) yes, but you also love men"
She: "vou sadly mistaken :) "

Me: hour later "well a threesome would be cool ;) "

I am stumped now - next or what?
You had a "date" with a gay girl. Duh.
 

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Not much future in this Lady old chap...just slide out gracefully and look for more...Good Luck!
Thank's mate I will do so - after all, the thrill is in the hunt. At least she paid for the breakfast and didn't flake on me. Notch it up to experience old chap, I should of taken Zoey on her offer at Toti.

You had a "date" with a gay girl. Duh.
Duh! to you too Zonder. What's wrong with dating feminine gay chicks - maybe she might be bi - who knows? After all, I'm also lesbian - I just love women!
 

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Dear Ballie,
"I should of taken Zoey on her offer"...Yup I have two golden rules,maxims if you like,that I live by....In business if someone offers you money,take it,you never know when things might go Pear shaped....With Love,never knock an offer back,ever!...The one you miss out on,is one you will never have!....I am getting a bit jaded with Asians,I need to communicate more,have a few laughs...so I am going round for rack of Lamb and all the trimmings on Sunday with a Polish Cougar....it wants me to meet the Family LOL...This one works out,has a better pair than Marilyn Monroe...not quite the invitation to take tea and meet Mother,but its a start!
 

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Personally if a girl tells me she's gay or alludes that she might be more bi than straight I will bail immediately. That's a real recipe for disaster, if you think straight girls are flaky and weird...
 

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Obviously this particular girl is not into you.

But generally speaking, "I don't believe in labels" is both what I think and what I would say straightaway. I've never met a truly gay woman who wasn't bull dyke-ish in a way that would not be attractive to men in the first place. If a girl is attractive, she will in all likelihood have had sex with men at some point in her life, and the label she puts on herself at this particular moment is irrelevant to the possibility of her having sex with you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If there was attraction on the date, that was a shiit test, you should have plowed through. I'd there wasn't attraction, then she's being straight up with you. Either way you didn't pass the test and you sealed your fate with a three some comment. Do you think that line would have worked on a straight girl
 

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Obviously this particular girl is not into you.

But generally speaking, "I don't believe in labels" is both what I think and what I would say straightaway. I've never met a truly gay woman who wasn't bull dyke-ish in a way that would not be attractive to men in the first place. If a girl is attractive, she will in all likelihood have had sex with men at some point in her life, and the label she puts on herself at this particular moment is irrelevant to the possibility of her having sex with you.
I think you hit the nail on the head. In the past, "Gay" feminine women let me kiss them feel the boobs etc - but not have sex with them (she had AIDs - as I found out later.) Her dyke friend wanted to beat me up LOL.

Vanessa is attractive - but she is not into me. I need to find a bird that is prepared to nest at Tramore for six months. That is difficult for the city women - since the farm is very remote and isolated. Oh well, I need to hunt for a local lass - maybe the vet's nurse Ashton?

Well, going to a jol in Kokstad (not c0ckstand :)) this weekend and let's see what happens....
 

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Hey dudes - a bit drunk now and tried to fvck her hamster brain. following Roissey's advice

If there was attraction on the date, that was a shiit test, you should have plowed through. I'd there wasn't attraction, then she's being straight up with you. Either way you didn't pass the test and you sealed your fate with a three some comment. Do you think that line would have worked on a straight girl
Naw, she is a c0ck teaser - kept on winking at me all the time we first met,
so i sent her this text:

2 @ 8====> ..... in reply - back to Durbs in a months time.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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