You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Damn, would i have had a girl for you! This woman was a 5'3 latina, flat stomach, an ass to die for, curves everywhere, long dark hair, golden skin tone, small tits, cutest little face you'd ever see, sweet and shy. When a woman like that is chasing you, and every guy you know wants her, its hard not to think you can get any woman. But one thing ruined it all: she was a career woman. The worst kind of all. As Steve Harvey said: "All that and nobody to share it with".speakeasy said:For me personally, I like a girl that's about 5'4" but no less than 5'. I like girls that are shapely, with a well defined hip/waist ratio. Yet I like my women thick but a firm thick with a flat stomach, not the flabby thick. A girl with a nice round ass that looks like it's gonna bust out of her jeans. Boobs don't have to be huge, but a little something is nice, as long as she isn't flat chested. I like a nice olive, mediterranean complexion. I guess the stereotypical Brazilian chic would be my dream girl. Oh, and last but not least...TATOO-LESS!!! I can't stand tatoos on women. I hate when a girl with a perfect skin and body feels the need to stain permanent ink on it. Why oh why???
Hahaha that's that polejumper. She complained all the time about the 'wrong' way people see her. I thought that was funny.speakeasy said:Damn, she is soooo fine, who is that???
lol! Allison Stokke right? I swear I've seen you post the same picture in like a half a dozen other threads. I think you might be getting oneitis bro!BluEyes said:She's my sister.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
BluEyes said:Perfect body
Have yet to date a girl with such an athletic physique. I've come close, infact, my ex rivaled that girl in her own unique way, but I doubt many besides me would have called her a 9 or 10.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
5'5 to 5'8 generally speaking.speakeasy said:For me personally, I like a girl that's about 5'4" but no less than 5'. I like girls that are shapely, with a well defined hip/waist ratio. Yet I like my women thick but a firm thick with a flat stomach, not the flabby thick. A girl with a nice round ass that looks like it's gonna bust out of her jeans. Boobs don't have to be huge, but a little something is nice, as long as she isn't flat chested. I like a nice olive, mediterranean complexion. I guess the stereotypical Brazilian chic would be my dream girl. Oh, and last but not least...TATOO-LESS!!! I can't stand tatoos on women. I hate when a girl with a perfect skin and body feels the need to stain permanent ink on it. Why oh why???
bigjohnson said:Most of those (except the vaulting girl) have boobs that are clearly fake. Fake boobs are nice to look at but are not that great in the sack.
Hmm, no, I have to respectfully disagree there. I like a well proportioned build. Salma Hayek needs those sweet funbags she has, but some women are slimmer and more athletic and look quite nice with a lot less boobage. Variety is nice and as long as the whole body looks proportional and nothing is too freakishly extreme it works for me.ValleyDJing said:Very true. But its better than a chick having small boobs...
bigjohnson said:Hmm, no, I have to respectfully disagree there. I like a well proportioned build. Salma Hayek needs those sweet funbags she has, but some women are slimmer and more athletic and look quite nice with a lot less boobage. Variety is nice and as long as the whole body looks proportional and nothing is too freakishly extreme it works for me.
As a side note fake boobs are not a no-go for me, just a slight minus.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
bigjohnson said:Fair enough, I personally think that a women built like Evangeline Lilly is hot, except she has sort of stumpy legs. Don't get me wrong, she's still hot but her modest boobage isn't even on the issue radar for me, wouldn't change it at all. She's what I would call a jock chick build.
I'd do her.