I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Damn, would i have had a girl for you! This woman was a 5'3 latina, flat stomach, an ass to die for, curves everywhere, long dark hair, golden skin tone, small tits, cutest little face you'd ever see, sweet and shy. When a woman like that is chasing you, and every guy you know wants her, its hard not to think you can get any woman. But one thing ruined it all: she was a career woman. The worst kind of all. As Steve Harvey said: "All that and nobody to share it with".speakeasy said:For me personally, I like a girl that's about 5'4" but no less than 5'. I like girls that are shapely, with a well defined hip/waist ratio. Yet I like my women thick but a firm thick with a flat stomach, not the flabby thick. A girl with a nice round ass that looks like it's gonna bust out of her jeans. Boobs don't have to be huge, but a little something is nice, as long as she isn't flat chested. I like a nice olive, mediterranean complexion. I guess the stereotypical Brazilian chic would be my dream girl. Oh, and last but not least...TATOO-LESS!!! I can't stand tatoos on women. I hate when a girl with a perfect skin and body feels the need to stain permanent ink on it. Why oh why???
Hahaha that's that polejumper. She complained all the time about the 'wrong' way people see her. I thought that was funny.speakeasy said:Damn, she is soooo fine, who is that???
lol! Allison Stokke right? I swear I've seen you post the same picture in like a half a dozen other threads. I think you might be getting oneitis bro!BluEyes said:She's my sister.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
BluEyes said:Perfect body
Have yet to date a girl with such an athletic physique. I've come close, infact, my ex rivaled that girl in her own unique way, but I doubt many besides me would have called her a 9 or 10.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
5'5 to 5'8 generally speaking.speakeasy said:For me personally, I like a girl that's about 5'4" but no less than 5'. I like girls that are shapely, with a well defined hip/waist ratio. Yet I like my women thick but a firm thick with a flat stomach, not the flabby thick. A girl with a nice round ass that looks like it's gonna bust out of her jeans. Boobs don't have to be huge, but a little something is nice, as long as she isn't flat chested. I like a nice olive, mediterranean complexion. I guess the stereotypical Brazilian chic would be my dream girl. Oh, and last but not least...TATOO-LESS!!! I can't stand tatoos on women. I hate when a girl with a perfect skin and body feels the need to stain permanent ink on it. Why oh why???
bigjohnson said:Most of those (except the vaulting girl) have boobs that are clearly fake. Fake boobs are nice to look at but are not that great in the sack.
Hmm, no, I have to respectfully disagree there. I like a well proportioned build. Salma Hayek needs those sweet funbags she has, but some women are slimmer and more athletic and look quite nice with a lot less boobage. Variety is nice and as long as the whole body looks proportional and nothing is too freakishly extreme it works for me.ValleyDJing said:Very true. But its better than a chick having small boobs...
bigjohnson said:Hmm, no, I have to respectfully disagree there. I like a well proportioned build. Salma Hayek needs those sweet funbags she has, but some women are slimmer and more athletic and look quite nice with a lot less boobage. Variety is nice and as long as the whole body looks proportional and nothing is too freakishly extreme it works for me.
As a side note fake boobs are not a no-go for me, just a slight minus.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
bigjohnson said:Fair enough, I personally think that a women built like Evangeline Lilly is hot, except she has sort of stumpy legs. Don't get me wrong, she's still hot but her modest boobage isn't even on the issue radar for me, wouldn't change it at all. She's what I would call a jock chick build.
I'd do her.