Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Damn, would i have had a girl for you! This woman was a 5'3 latina, flat stomach, an ass to die for, curves everywhere, long dark hair, golden skin tone, small tits, cutest little face you'd ever see, sweet and shy. When a woman like that is chasing you, and every guy you know wants her, its hard not to think you can get any woman. But one thing ruined it all: she was a career woman. The worst kind of all. As Steve Harvey said: "All that and nobody to share it with".speakeasy said:For me personally, I like a girl that's about 5'4" but no less than 5'. I like girls that are shapely, with a well defined hip/waist ratio. Yet I like my women thick but a firm thick with a flat stomach, not the flabby thick. A girl with a nice round ass that looks like it's gonna bust out of her jeans. Boobs don't have to be huge, but a little something is nice, as long as she isn't flat chested. I like a nice olive, mediterranean complexion. I guess the stereotypical Brazilian chic would be my dream girl. Oh, and last but not least...TATOO-LESS!!! I can't stand tatoos on women. I hate when a girl with a perfect skin and body feels the need to stain permanent ink on it. Why oh why???
Hahaha that's that polejumper. She complained all the time about the 'wrong' way people see her. I thought that was funny.speakeasy said:Damn, she is soooo fine, who is that???
lol! Allison Stokke right? I swear I've seen you post the same picture in like a half a dozen other threads. I think you might be getting oneitis bro!BluEyes said:She's my sister.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BluEyes said:Perfect body
Have yet to date a girl with such an athletic physique. I've come close, infact, my ex rivaled that girl in her own unique way, but I doubt many besides me would have called her a 9 or 10.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
5'5 to 5'8 generally speaking.speakeasy said:For me personally, I like a girl that's about 5'4" but no less than 5'. I like girls that are shapely, with a well defined hip/waist ratio. Yet I like my women thick but a firm thick with a flat stomach, not the flabby thick. A girl with a nice round ass that looks like it's gonna bust out of her jeans. Boobs don't have to be huge, but a little something is nice, as long as she isn't flat chested. I like a nice olive, mediterranean complexion. I guess the stereotypical Brazilian chic would be my dream girl. Oh, and last but not least...TATOO-LESS!!! I can't stand tatoos on women. I hate when a girl with a perfect skin and body feels the need to stain permanent ink on it. Why oh why???
bigjohnson said:Most of those (except the vaulting girl) have boobs that are clearly fake. Fake boobs are nice to look at but are not that great in the sack.
Hmm, no, I have to respectfully disagree there. I like a well proportioned build. Salma Hayek needs those sweet funbags she has, but some women are slimmer and more athletic and look quite nice with a lot less boobage. Variety is nice and as long as the whole body looks proportional and nothing is too freakishly extreme it works for me.ValleyDJing said:Very true. But its better than a chick having small boobs...
bigjohnson said:Hmm, no, I have to respectfully disagree there. I like a well proportioned build. Salma Hayek needs those sweet funbags she has, but some women are slimmer and more athletic and look quite nice with a lot less boobage. Variety is nice and as long as the whole body looks proportional and nothing is too freakishly extreme it works for me.
As a side note fake boobs are not a no-go for me, just a slight minus.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
bigjohnson said:Fair enough, I personally think that a women built like Evangeline Lilly is hot, except she has sort of stumpy legs. Don't get me wrong, she's still hot but her modest boobage isn't even on the issue radar for me, wouldn't change it at all. She's what I would call a jock chick build.
I'd do her.