Well thanks to the few who actually tried to give me their opinion on what drama means to them. It was appreciated. Im glad some of you can actually talk and communicate with women to help us to better our relationships. That was the purpose of this question. To the rest of you, well never mind. I dont need advice from these types, but thanks anyway.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What do you consider DRAMA?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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kathy said:
You're welcome.
lol answered her own question.
There's probably good drama and bad drama. When a chick can't figure you out, sees you're not a chump who jumps at her say-so, she gets those drama feelings and ends up obsessing and that's good drama I suppose. She's getting those needs met.
Bad drama is only experienced by guys who put up with it. I mean if you're not jumping at her every whim, you can't be "boxed in", and on top of that, you don't tolerate second class behavior from a woman, how much BAD drama are YOU as a man actually going to EXPERIENCE???
Lots of guys, and like I usually say I did this too--enjoy the drama just as much. They spend a lot of time saying "that bytch did this--she did that---who does she think she is---I'm gonna show that chick--etc" that's drama too. So I guess drama in one finds it in another.
A smart girl would realize, like Interceptor said earlier, that if she wants to keep a man that has a low tolerance for BS, then it's probably better to not pull out the BS. Then both get what they want.
So people who get off on drama find each other, people that get off on non-drama maybe find each other too.
At least, I don't understand how a man who has high standards could be surrounded by too much drama. As my standards for my own behavior increase, I find that getting caught up in drama (from anyone, guys or girls) is tiring. It can really take over your mind and you kind of get sucked into this cycle of being pissed off but getting "high" off it at the same time. Takes a lot out of you. When you live like that the highs are high but the lows are even lower.
edit--lol, I notice how in my response I didn't even bother to list what I consider female drama. That's a good thing.
There's probably good drama and bad drama. When a chick can't figure you out, sees you're not a chump who jumps at her say-so, she gets those drama feelings and ends up obsessing and that's good drama I suppose. She's getting those needs met.
Bad drama is only experienced by guys who put up with it. I mean if you're not jumping at her every whim, you can't be "boxed in", and on top of that, you don't tolerate second class behavior from a woman, how much BAD drama are YOU as a man actually going to EXPERIENCE???
Lots of guys, and like I usually say I did this too--enjoy the drama just as much. They spend a lot of time saying "that bytch did this--she did that---who does she think she is---I'm gonna show that chick--etc" that's drama too. So I guess drama in one finds it in another.
A smart girl would realize, like Interceptor said earlier, that if she wants to keep a man that has a low tolerance for BS, then it's probably better to not pull out the BS. Then both get what they want.
So people who get off on drama find each other, people that get off on non-drama maybe find each other too.
At least, I don't understand how a man who has high standards could be surrounded by too much drama. As my standards for my own behavior increase, I find that getting caught up in drama (from anyone, guys or girls) is tiring. It can really take over your mind and you kind of get sucked into this cycle of being pissed off but getting "high" off it at the same time. Takes a lot out of you. When you live like that the highs are high but the lows are even lower.
edit--lol, I notice how in my response I didn't even bother to list what I consider female drama. That's a good thing.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
penkitten
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my belief that drama is any unnecessary stuff being dished out , that you do not want to deal with.
everyone's perception of drama is going to vary.
everyone's perception of drama is going to vary.
the reason, i believe, that women are so prone to drama is that they are raised to 'fight' using jabs, barbs, covert insults, etc.
women create drama because often when they get upset they aren't upset over what they are saying is upsetting them.
for instance, she will get upset over you being late, but really she's upset that you fell asleep in the middle of making love the night before.
a woman who says what she means and means what she says can throw fits and tantrums all the time and it is no big deal.
men can handle women when they get upset and are upset over what they say they are upset about.
what drives men nuts, and whats considered drama, is when they lose it over little things (and the reality is they aren't actually upset over that little thing, its something bigger, usually that they aren't getting enough 'attention').
women create drama because often when they get upset they aren't upset over what they are saying is upsetting them.
for instance, she will get upset over you being late, but really she's upset that you fell asleep in the middle of making love the night before.
a woman who says what she means and means what she says can throw fits and tantrums all the time and it is no big deal.
men can handle women when they get upset and are upset over what they say they are upset about.
what drives men nuts, and whats considered drama, is when they lose it over little things (and the reality is they aren't actually upset over that little thing, its something bigger, usually that they aren't getting enough 'attention').
With all due respect...it is virtually IMPOSSIBLE to change the behavior of a woman that is 50. If you were a drama queen in your 30s and 40s...you will be a drama queen at 50 and there is NOTHING we can say or do to change that.kathy said:
Was going to say the same thing. Most of us exhibit some form of drama , as we all perceive some events as being important to some degree. Some fall to the far end of the spectrum; women in most cases from my observations. I can not exclude men from this, as I have had friends break out their best drama performance. Indifference eventually breaks them down; I simply do not respond to it and encourage it.penkitten said:
It's easy to see why this has been a problem for you. All of this is extreme drama.kathy said:
Drama: amongst the many things said already..... not taking criticism well, and choosing to be defensive instead of laughing about it.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.