What do you consider DRAMA?

[kathy]

Ok men help us women to understand please. What things do you consider to be drama and what tips can you give us to not fall into this?

 

[Interceptor]

Kathy, I think it's adding unneccesary emotions to sometimes every day things.

Sometimes it can be over exaggerating the significance of something, or even one's own self importance.

And the silly immature stuff of flaking or not calling, being late, little white lies. Things like that.

Because so many women use that to actualy gauge how a man will react to them.
A lot of women want to be put in their place , so to speak.
So they sometimes use drama and low class behavior as a way of determining the man's reaction to them.
So they determine the value of the man by the way he responds to her drama.
Will he put up with her behavior?

Or put her in her place?

Most all women want a man that will be assertive. And not be her doormat.

What sometimes may not go through the minds of those dramatic women is that they may often lose the very valueable and assertive man, because he is there to be her Man, not just be her disciplinarian.





They also create becasue that is what theyr're used to, and perhaps sometimes lack intense emotions in their relationships.

It is important to be aware of these things.

Both men and women.
As many people get used to creating drama, and argumentative behavior, make up, and then release that tension.
They then, in order to release that tension, create it again and again.
So they get caught up in a cycle of behavior. In which to them, it is normal to be that argumentative and with so much drama.
They may not feel worthy of normal healthy, loving and affectionate relations, so they create an obstacle to it, and then break through it and get what they want.

 

[DavenJuan]

Drama: any topic, discussion, scenerio, idea blown out of proportion to actual reality.

ways to reailze you are being a drama queen/causing drama..

if 15 minutes later you realize that whatever you were upset about was not as important or relevant to anything its considered DRAMA.

if you hate every single women that your bf/husband knows including his mother thats considered DRAMA

if your bf/husband avoids minor conflicts with you because of the way you handle things thats considered DRAMA

so how to avoid this..

FACTS UNKOWN.

there is no cure just medicine to minimize the damage...

SPIN PLATES

 

[Purple-Haze]

kathy:

Based on feedback from friends, etc. here are some things a man may consider to be drama (or a woman for that matter).

- obsessing about something over and over again even though you've discussed it and the other person thinks the subject has been put to rest
- bringing up past incidents to make a point (even though, again, it has been put to rest)
- shouting, screaming, etc.
- manipulating a converastion to get a certain answer
- changing your mood to obtain some kind of affection (i.e. you sense he's in a good mood so you decide to get a little clingy and needy to capitalize on his mood)
- jealousy (scrutinizing his relationships with other women)

Just some stuff off the top of my head.

 

[Phyzzle]

I've never been involved with a real drama queen, but I've seen quite a few.

Look up 'passive-aggressive'; this is the major source of drama. If a woman finds herself really displeased about about something, and she scowls off into space, and waits for people to pick away at her with some half hour guessing game, you could say she's causing drama.

Or, just bad manners. Everybody should know that crying or shouting in public space over some minor problem is rude. When someone wasn't raised to know this, we say that person is too dramatic.

 

[ketostix]

Drama is anything that is to stir up emotions, mostly negative ones. Things like jealousy (this is a big one), uncertainty,or just unnecesary derision and problems in general.

 

[Centaurion]

Inter and Daven summed it up pretty good.

I used to be with a drama queen. It was fun, because I knew she was a drama queen, and I wasn't shy about fueling the flame. Made a lot of interesting sissy fits.

 

[LeftyLoosey]

Drama: any topic, discussion, scenerio, idea blown out of proportion to actual reality.

ways to reailze you are being a drama queen/causing drama..

if 15 minutes later you realize that whatever you were upset about was not as important or relevant to anything its considered DRAMA.

if you hate every single women that your bf/husband knows including his mother thats considered DRAMA

if your bf/husband avoids minor conflicts with you because of the way you handle things thats considered DRAMA

so how to avoid this..

FACTS UNKOWN.

there is no cure just medicine to minimize the damage...

SPIN PLATES

Oh crap. My wife exhibits all of these traits... and I avoid a lot of minor conflicts with her because of the way she handles things.

Is there any way to resolve this? I do remember one incident where she got dramatic and loud about something which I thought was a complete non-issue and I actually started laughing. This calmed her down immediately and she responded with a comment about how I had "grown up" and I noticed her IL immediately increased.

 

[Warrior74]

Your a woman. you already know what drama is. Stop playing games. And yall so called DJs on here...why are you even anwsering this crap? either she is a drama queen (and therefor winding you up) or she at least knows some. otherwise shes a person with no social skills and no amount of explaining is gonna help. I call shenannigans on this whole thread.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

You really wanna know what drama is let me show you

But keep in mind this is just one point of view

Drama is livin' in a 3rd world country

****ed up and hungry without no money

Drama is trying to adjust to circumstance

Missing more than one leg or more than one hand

Drama is being chased off ya' land

By a funny looking man in a suit that works for the bank

Drama is what's happening to the ecosystem

And the animals it feeds, from the damage to trees

To rainforests that get destroyed annually

Damn is it just me who cares about the air that we breathe?

Drama is the nuclear threat that we live with

One bomb and everybody's dead that's some sick ****

Drama is HIV statistics

The infected person that you might have sex with, life goes on

But drama is living with the afterthought that maybe you could have prevented it

Drama is imminent, it comes in other forms

The sick pedophiles who support child porn

Never mind the offenders

Think about what the victims go through and what the **** they gotta' live wit

Drama is the prison population

Some belong there but also some belong on probation

Drama is not being able to change one thing

Cause the system you live in says you ain't ****

Drama is corporate scandal

Drama is a handful of CEO's playin' you for a damn fool

Drama is being a millionaire

But gotta' recoup half the budget from your 10 percent share

Drama is having one too many women

Even though you always need a spare one to swim in

Drama is dealing with your jealous impulses

Learning how to hold it all in with no emotion

Drama is blind devotion

Drama is having your deepest secrets exposed in the open

Drama is having your heart broken

And the person who broke it doesn't even mother****ing notice

Drama is trying to carry a burden all by yourself on your shoulders and it don't exist

Drama is being falsely accused, Drama is the latest news

Drama is what gives people clues

Drama is a tool you can use to distract ya' enemy so they never improve

Drama is the fear of devils and the fear of God

Drama is a long and hard Tech support desk job

Drama is the life of an up-and-coming actor or rapper

Or athlete or building contractor

Drama is a rookie cop calling for backup

The 3 strike perpetrator that's getting tatted up

Drama is the spin zone of a politician

Drama is K-Solo when he said the rhyme did it

Drama is the struggle of change

Drama is inevitable there is no other way

Drama is what drains life force out of you

Drama is negative but drama can empower you

Drama is love, Drama is pain

Drama exists in everything everyday

Drama is the Yen, Drama is the Yang

Drama is the innate nature of man

Drama contracts, Drama expands

Drama is what I am

 

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Your a woman. you already know what drama is. Stop playing games. And yall so called DJs on here...why are you even anwsering this crap?.

Took 9 replies, but at least someone got there.

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

women = drama

 

[Commando]

I liked what Nobody said. It kind of puts things into perspective, no?

Relationship Drama.

Spinning plates and keeping your significant other off balance on purpose, or tending to back ups. The genuine man or woman with a shread of self confidence is going to bail upon realizing this.

Taking the ****y and funny thing too far. Enough to emotionally wound the other. When you cross that line, and you enjoy doing so, and they go for it. You are dealing with an insecurity. Tread carefully. I would recommend treading backwards for either.

Seek a healthy core of being and then attract a healthy partner. In that order.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I liked what Nobody said. It kind of puts things into perspective, no?

Relationship Drama.

Spinning plates and keeping your significant other off balance on purpose, or tending to back ups. The genuine man or woman with a shread of self confidence is going to bail upon realizing this.

Taking the ****y and funny thing too far. Enough to emotionally wound the other. When you cross that line, and you enjoy doing so, and they go for it. You are dealing with an insecurity. Tread carefully. I would recommend treading backwards for either.

Seek a healthy core of being and then attract a healthy partner. In that order.

I just cut and pasted a song by Canibus called "Drama". Check it out.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

LOL I was going to say that until you revealed it, MNIN. I love CanIBus!


You have any idea what I do to crews like you, how many niggas in my career I ran through!?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Seek a healthy core of being and then attract a healthy partner. In that order.

 

[drmeathead]

im a dentist....this woman asking what men call drama is like me asking the general public what they think is tooth decay. i damn well know what it is. this woman does too. my assumption is that she is asking because she was told by someone that she causes too much drama and is looking to see if we happen to list her specific behavior here. so getting back to your original question about causes of drama...the answer is asking what is drama when you already know the answer.

 

[Nelford]

Took 9 replies, but at least someone got there.

Tell me about it.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Drama is any woman asking me what I think drama is.

 

[joekerr31]

Ok men help us women to understand please. What things do you consider to be drama and what tips can you give us to not fall into this?

any behavior that is meant to evoke an emotional response with no relevance to resolving the issue at hand is DRAMA.