"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What do u do when things between u n a girl get awkward?

Avn_0903

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I went for this girl but messed up. I ignored her for a while so now we avoid each other. Now I just want her to be my friend n I have tried talking to her several times. However she still avoids me when it's still very awkward. What do u do to make things comfortable again??
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Charm&Style

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What benefit are you going to obtain in being friends? You tried to initiate and she still avoids you, dont attach yourself (its not like she has a magic vajayjay) just move on.
 

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There is a reason why the pie is lie.
 

hondo928

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I'm in a very similar situation, only I don't really want to be her friend, although she did just get into a sorority that has a lot of girls, I'd rather it just not be awkward. Personally, the first time I went into a coffee shop and the only seat open was next to her, and i was like since this is going to be awkward if we sit here quietly for 2 hours, i"m going to say hi now, and stop it. She seemed a little bit looser after that. Just now i saw her in the gym so i said good morning. Basically I'm taking the approach that if I'm not awkward then hopefully she won't be.

But this is the first time I've been in this position, I've been on the other side before, and the girl I'm pretty sure went out of her way to say hi when she saw me just so I'd feel more awkward, eventually though I realized there was no reason to be awkard
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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