"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What do u do when things between u n a girl get awkward?

Avn_0903

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I went for this girl but messed up. I ignored her for a while so now we avoid each other. Now I just want her to be my friend n I have tried talking to her several times. However she still avoids me when it's still very awkward. What do u do to make things comfortable again??
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Charm&Style

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What benefit are you going to obtain in being friends? You tried to initiate and she still avoids you, dont attach yourself (its not like she has a magic vajayjay) just move on.
 

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There is a reason why the pie is lie.
 

hondo928

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I'm in a very similar situation, only I don't really want to be her friend, although she did just get into a sorority that has a lot of girls, I'd rather it just not be awkward. Personally, the first time I went into a coffee shop and the only seat open was next to her, and i was like since this is going to be awkward if we sit here quietly for 2 hours, i"m going to say hi now, and stop it. She seemed a little bit looser after that. Just now i saw her in the gym so i said good morning. Basically I'm taking the approach that if I'm not awkward then hopefully she won't be.

But this is the first time I've been in this position, I've been on the other side before, and the girl I'm pretty sure went out of her way to say hi when she saw me just so I'd feel more awkward, eventually though I realized there was no reason to be awkard
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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