This refers mainly to club hookups. In the main I imagine this shouldn't be an issue for someone with a gf 
So you're out, you meet someone and you end up going back to yours or theirs. Maybe theres a bit of a party and at about 3 AM you end up alone with her in a bed or on a couch.
Now theres black and white outcomes here. You make some moves, zero resistance and you screw her. Or you make your moves, she resists, you try again and she gets pissed at you.
However, I'm having moral issues with the grey area in between. Part of me feels that she's with me on a couch / bed at 3 AM so she's up for sex. Another part is uncomfortable with making really big moves if she seems unwilling. (e.g. taking off her panties)
As an example, I was with a girl on a couch and was fingering her. She didn't want to go farther as she was afraid someone would walk in. She used her hands to block me removing her pyjamas. In hindsight, I believe she would have gone along with it if I had aggressively removed them as she did the same thing when I tried to feel her breast.
So what do ye generally do? With some girls you get the feeling that they're not fully ok with having sex with you but won't kick up enough fuss to fully stop your advances. In no way am I suggesting physically overpowering her, thats rape. Its this in between area that confuses me.
So you're out, you meet someone and you end up going back to yours or theirs. Maybe theres a bit of a party and at about 3 AM you end up alone with her in a bed or on a couch.
Now theres black and white outcomes here. You make some moves, zero resistance and you screw her. Or you make your moves, she resists, you try again and she gets pissed at you.
However, I'm having moral issues with the grey area in between. Part of me feels that she's with me on a couch / bed at 3 AM so she's up for sex. Another part is uncomfortable with making really big moves if she seems unwilling. (e.g. taking off her panties)
As an example, I was with a girl on a couch and was fingering her. She didn't want to go farther as she was afraid someone would walk in. She used her hands to block me removing her pyjamas. In hindsight, I believe she would have gone along with it if I had aggressively removed them as she did the same thing when I tried to feel her breast.
So what do ye generally do? With some girls you get the feeling that they're not fully ok with having sex with you but won't kick up enough fuss to fully stop your advances. In no way am I suggesting physically overpowering her, thats rape. Its this in between area that confuses me.