What do men want?

[Urbanyst]

I don't think this gets enough attention. We are always talking about how to impress women. But what impresses us? What is the type of romantic relationship everyone here wants?

Do we want a comfortable relationship where we just put our feet up and eat Cheetos while watching sports and assume our hot 9 girlfriend or wife will never lose interest, will stay hot forever, and will have sex with us every day on command?

Do we want to put on a dancing clown show, blow our money on expensive shoes, win an Oscar for our street game and first date performance, and try to convince women we are better than we really are so they'll either duped into sleeping with us once or twice, or see us as a provider they can use?

It would seem like that is what many people here are trying to accomplish. Are those the results a lot of you want and the life you want to live?

 

[Trump]

I don't think this gets enough attention. We are always talking about how to impress women. But what impresses us?

Do we want a comfortable relationship where we just put our feet up and eat Cheetos while watching sports and assume our hot 9 girlfriend or wife will never lose interest, will stay hot forever, and will have sex with us every day on command?

Do we want to put on a dancing clown show, blow our money on expensive shoes, win an Oscar for our street game and first date performance, and try to convince women we are better than we really are so they'll either duped into sleeping with us once or twice, or see us as a provider they can use?

It would seem like that is what many people here are trying to accomplish. Are those the results a lot of you want and the life you want to live?

In relation to life:

Men want to get respect and be rich, but they don't want to put in the effort.

In relation to women:

Men want to be married Monday through Friday.

Then they want to go out on the weekend, have fun, and sleep with their hot mistress.

And then go back to being married Monday through Friday.

Then eventually they want to leave their wife for their hot mistress, all while making sure their wife gives them a couple of kids to carry on their genes.

 

[mikey2012]

Hos..

 

[3agle 3yes]

As a whole?

Men: Validation.

and

Women: Attention.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Depends. My dream girl obviously has to be hot and she has to really love me. I have to be able to fully trust her too (ha!). Now let's see.... she has to be excitable and I want to be able to feel giddy and share my giddiness with her, like a laughing toddler clapping his hands together because he's happy (I don't want to do that, but I want that feeling babies have when they do that). Her personality is either that, or she is a very feminine woman, that stereotypical shy and timid 'waifu' type. And she cooks, cleans, is sweet, doesn't deny me sex or any sexual pleasures, and remains really hot when she gets older. Then the typical loyalty stuff that for some fvcked up reason is no longer common sense anymore hahaha.

Now of course, in this vision of her, especially the shy and timid one, there are certain characteristics and achievements of myself that I currently do not have. Hopefully I can obtain them soon. These achievements can only be acquired in a few years, I can't do it later on....

 

[Rainman4707]

As a whole?

Men: Validation.

and

Women: Attention.

Can you elaborate on the validation part please

 

[thatfeel]

Can you elaborate on the validation part please

val·i·da·tion
ˌvaləˈdāSH(ə)n/
noun

1. the action of checking or proving the validity or accuracy of something.
   "the technique requires validation in controlled trials"
   • the action of making or declaring something legally or officially acceptable.
     "new courses, subject to validation, include an MSc in Urban Forestry"
   • recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile.
     "they have exaggerated needs for acceptance and validation"

 

[Dingo]

At this point of my life I really just want to be left alone....

 

[KingofPuss]

I want respect and honesty. They go hand in hand

 

[shesabranchswinger]

No one I know who is truly successful or happy ever really gets what they want in life. I have gotten what I want in short relationships and spinning plates, but good LTR'S in my opinion both romantic and otherwise require compromises on both sides just like good business clients and partners. You can only lone wolf it for so long before the pack catches you.

So what do I want at this age, what ever the best option is in front of me that I can concur or acquire and hope my choices are wise.

 

[lizardking82]

Be respected in my profession; have a girl I can share the good and the bad things that happen to me, a mate that will share the same things with you and you will help each other in whatever way possible, being the port of rest for each other after dealing with other humans. I had that for two years and I won't settle for anything less. Just better. It's the only thing that's worthy, in my opinion.

 

[The Duke]

Here's what I want in a female:

-Looks
-Good at sechs
-Respectful
-Loyal
-Someone I can discuss any topic/issue with, express our thoughts/feelings, hash things out, and walk away with a better appreciation for each other afterwards. It takes a very strong/disciplined person to do so.

 

[C00lAF]

Just money and power...and a diffrent ho every week,no touchy feely with any of em,just sex.

 

[Urbanyst]

Yes

LOL. Well, that's never gonna happen.

 

[Tenacity]

What do men want?

It's just my opinion, but I think majority of men want what society/entertainment has painted in our minds to want.

- We want to be the best looking guy
- We want to have the best looking women
- We want to have the top tier job/career making top tier money
- We want to have the best looking car
- We want to have the best looking "crib"
- We want to have the coolest friends and family

But very few will achieve this. Industries are created based on the "pursuit" of happiness (not actually being happy, just the pursuit of it).

There's so many things I want (including just about everything on this list) but the reality is that it's just NOT going to happen because I'm not today, yesterday, or tomorrow, going to be in a position FOR it to happen, nor operating in a market environment for it to happen.

 

[3agle 3yes]

Can you elaborate on the validation part please

Though @thatfeel gave a dictionary description let me elaborate.

As men, we want to be worth something...we want to matter to ourselves and to other people. Without this we might feel "less than" some other people.

As the last point in @thatfeel 's post describes:

1. • recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile.

 

[stovepipe]

I just want to wake up one day and live the life of Bradd80

 

[Von]

Power and Freedom, goes hand in hand

 

[Rainman4707]

Be respected in my profession; have a girl I can share the good and the bad things that happen to me, a mate that will share the same things with you and you will help each other in whatever way possible, being the port of rest for each other after dealing with other humans. I had that for two years and I won't settle for anything less. Just better. It's the only thing that's worthy, in my opinion.

I have this with my GF.

 

[Rainman4707]

Here's what I want in a female:

-Looks
-Good at sechs
-Respectful
-Loyal
-Someone I can discuss any topic/issue with, express our thoughts/feelings, hash things out, and walk away with a better appreciation for each other afterwards. It takes a very strong/disciplined person to do so.

I have this too with my GF