What do I do?

[wtopher]

Hey DJs everywhere,

I've been seeing this girl for 2 months now. We're both 15 years old.

She's nice, she's amazing, and I'm happy with her.

Recently, we've been talking about our relationship, if we were official, and she tells me that I'm too special to risk at the moment, and that it's too soon from her last breakup. She was kinda overlapping her ex and me when we were first seeing each other.

But I understand, and I've been giving her time and space.

I know for a fact that 3 other guys like her, and I get jealous easily. How do I know if she's committed to me, if she wants to be with me? If she's not seeing other guys? I really like this girl and I don't want to miss her.

We've already started 2nd base (touching) physically, so I wonder about her commitment emotionally.

Thanks.

 

[Rhoto]

Oh boy...

Best way to gauge her feelings - make her jealous. Start spending your time with other girls.

But if this chick does like you, she will want to be committed...now.

Think about it - WTF does "too special to risk at the moment" really mean?

She doesn't want to stay attached so she can be free to do whatever she wants with whomever she wants. Think about it dude - she was hanging out with you and her ex at the same time. What does that say about her values and yours?

My opinion - Cut off the contact. No text replies, no phone calls that last for more than 2 minutes, no IMs, facebook any of that sh1t.

Whatever she asks you - "Are you mad at me" "Did I do something wrong" or whatever your only response should be - "No." And DROP the conversation. Do not show emotions, don't say things like "I really like you and want to be with you." They backfire, tried and tested.

You're 15 man. Have fun with girls, don't be some needy chump that will torture himself for one measly pair of tits and a vagina. And I appreciate that you like her, having a girl around that you can kiss and touch is fun, but remember, there are tons of them out there and you don't know what makes you happy until you know a lot of them.

Focus on school and getting into a good college.
Focus on joining clubs and learning how to dynamically interact with a lot of people.
Focus on becoming a better man.

 

[wtopher]

Thanks Rhoto.

She keeps saying that it's too soon from her last breakup. That's all she keeps saying if the subject pops up.

I'll take your advice and stop sending messages for a bit.

She doesn't go to my school, but my friend that knows her and goes to her school says she's hanging around with this guy. A lot, nothing sexually and such, just he hangs around with her a lot.

Thanks for your help,
wtopher.

 

[wtopher]

Oh, and I hang out with a bunch of female friends. I don't want to make this situation into a game though.

 

[Rhoto]

Thanks Rhoto.

She keeps saying that it's too soon from her last breakup. That's all she keeps saying if the subject pops up.

I'll take your advice and stop sending messages for a bit.

She doesn't go to my school, but my friend that knows her and goes to her school says she's hanging around with this guy. A lot, nothing sexually and such, just he hangs around with her a lot.

Thanks for your help,
wtopher.

Again, stop caring man. And if you mean "for a bit" it should be a month at least. If not the rest of the school year.

 

[dj_jazzybrad]

Hey man, I was just in the EXACT same situation. I got jealous easily, and the girl that i was seeing who didnt want to be "official" was chilling with other guys, trying to make me jealous on purpose. I hung with other girls, and she started being a total b!tch to my friends who were girls that i was hanging out with, so I nexted her. She's been trying to contact me, but i've moved on and it was a good decision. Probably not the outcome you're looking for, but it helps and it showed me that she definitely wasn't right for me.

I've definitely learned a lot from her.

 

[wtopher]

I ended it with her. Thank you very much. You all have helped me out a lot.

wtopher.