"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What do I do?

andreus

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OK, I've been going out with my girlfriend for a few weeks. She's great; nice, funny, and really hot. I really like her, but I only like her; I'm not obsessed or anything.

However, she's sort of been getting upset lately because its always her that is asking me out. She is always the one who calls and makes plans. I know that is something I can work on, but what exactly should I do? Is this a bad thing?

Thanks for any help!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Well, if you aren't too attached then it shouldn't be much of a problem. But here's a nice idea. Setup a "date" with her somewhere out of the ordinary. For example, go to a book store (Borders, Barnes and Noble) and browse through. Go through the self-improvement section and point out books of areas she needs help with (it's more of a c and f thing here) or, if you have created enough attraction, go through the Karma Sutra books and tease her about different positions she should try with you.
 

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Well, I always act a little c + f with her (I've never had trouble not being AFC and stuff). However, I feel a little uncomfortable that she doesn't think I like her as much as she likes me. I just planned a couple of dates for us to make her happier.
 

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don't worry too much why you feel that "you only like her." Have fun with this courtship. As for her being upset that she always makes the plans, simply surprise her with one of your own. It doesn't have to be costly. Go for a bike ride together, go to the beach, get some lunch from a take out or from your own place and have a picnic somewhere then later sing something to her (if you're musical), or go for ice cream.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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