"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hi, I am a Filipino, I met this girl at a party of my friend, we had sex during that time, and dated 2 weeks after....we had a great time, had great sex every time we met on a date. she always came on me whenever we do each other for 6 hours, yup the last time we did was 1:30 until 7am. we have been dating for 3 months already. she got work as an OR nurse but I'm still a graduating student. she also admitted that she has feelings for me, she also said she'd like to take some more time to get to know each other.

last week after she went back from macau, we were supposed to meet but i didn't mention it cause I had no money that time to have a date with her. and she was on her ovulation period so it wasn't safe to have sex. when we were msging each other there was this gut feeling that she had another guy, so I texted her that I'm like, jealous, but she assured me that she was only at the mall and went back home at 10:30am. I was frustrated, cause she was the moody type girl.

by the way, she had a history of giving other guys a good time, as in like, sex, and I did have a sex history too with a couple of other girls before I met her.

now I'm having problems cause she's not contacting me the way it was before, so I did the NC. the other night we texted, but i fell asleep. yesterday she didnt msg me, so I msged and called her up 2am in the morning. i got no reply until right now, no call even...what do i do? i've got feelings for her already. this feeling is plain BS cause i'm not having any problems with my previous girls but now I feel like i'm an ass waiting for her to call. I don't wanna move on yet.

I need help badly. money is hard here in the country and I sacrificed and adjusted a lot just to get to this point with her. it's like, I can get my previous girls to have sex with but I just want her at this point. no one else matters right now. I'm still in the NC mode since I last texted her because the ball is in her court... please, I need help.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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When they leave you hanging at the height of your infatuation phase thats when you get severe oneitis. Its bullcrap but it happens. Lesson learned, dont get wrapped up mentally early on.
 
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keep busy.
in the mean time, work out, read, go pishing lol.
 
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thorwynn said:
Hi, I am a Filipino, I met this girl at a party of my friend, we had sex during that time, and dated 2 weeks after....we had a great time, had great sex every time we met on a date. she always came on me whenever we do each other for 6 hours, yup the last time we did was 1:30 until 7am. we have been dating for 3 months already. she got work as an OR nurse but I'm still a graduating student. she also admitted that she has feelings for me, she also said she'd like to take some more time to get to know each other.

last week after she went back from macau, we were supposed to meet but i didn't mention it cause I had no money that time to have a date with her. and she was on her ovulation period so it wasn't safe to have sex. when we were msging each other there was this gut feeling that she had another guy, so I texted her that I'm like, jealous, but she assured me that she was only at the mall and went back home at 10:30am. I was frustrated, cause she was the moody type girl.

by the way, she had a history of giving other guys a good time, as in like, sex, and I did have a sex history too with a couple of other girls before I met her.

now I'm having problems cause she's not contacting me the way it was before, so I did the NC. the other night we texted, but i fell asleep. yesterday she didnt msg me, so I msged and called her up 2am in the morning. i got no reply until right now, no call even...what do i do? i've got feelings for her already. this feeling is plain BS cause i'm not having any problems with my previous girls but now I feel like i'm an ass waiting for her to call. I don't wanna move on yet.

I need help badly. money is hard here in the country and I sacrificed and adjusted a lot just to get to this point with her. it's like, I can get my previous girls to have sex with but I just want her at this point. no one else matters right now. I'm still in the NC mode since I last texted her because the ball is in her court... please, I need help.
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You are in deep shit. As I was reading your post, I was highlighting key points when I read that you already developed feelings (after only 3 months).

You need to see other girls, asap. Keeping your mind off her is the best thing for you right now.
 
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Guys, can you give more suggestions to prevent this from happening again? I've been doing the lessons here in sosuave, but I am still in the learning process, I still don't know everything, but so far everything in the lessons were very effective which I used with the other girls I had before. I'm still keeping an open mind from you DJs.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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experience bro. make mistakes. you cant be perfect all the time. so you gain more confidence in making mistakes, then learning from them.

You have an open mind which a good attitude.
 
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Thorwynn, you need to protect your heart by going in slowly...i.e integrate the person you have feelings for "slowly" into your life. Else if you make them your everything and they leave you you will have nothing and feel like ****. Always make sure they are meeting you in the middle and if not back up...
 
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alright guys, but what if I want her back? what do I do now?
 
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nothing...go and find someone else who is interested in you. She is not interested.
 
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i'm keeping my mind open but are there any more suggestions other than what window said? im seeing other girls already. but i said, IF i want her back, what should I do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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thorwynn said:
i'm keeping my mind open but are there any more suggestions other than what window said? im seeing other girls already. but i said, IF i want her back, what should I do?
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Sometimes you just don't get what you want.
The only thing you can really do is go about your life and if she comes back, she comes back.
There are no solutions other than very temporary that in the long run will cost you money and self respect.

It's sad and I feel your pain, but the best way to get her back is to appear to not want her back.

Question is ... why would you want her back? She sounds a tad flaky.

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