"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hi, I am a Filipino, I met this girl at a party of my friend, we had sex during that time, and dated 2 weeks after....we had a great time, had great sex every time we met on a date. she always came on me whenever we do each other for 6 hours, yup the last time we did was 1:30 until 7am. we have been dating for 3 months already. she got work as an OR nurse but I'm still a graduating student. she also admitted that she has feelings for me, she also said she'd like to take some more time to get to know each other.

last week after she went back from macau, we were supposed to meet but i didn't mention it cause I had no money that time to have a date with her. and she was on her ovulation period so it wasn't safe to have sex. when we were msging each other there was this gut feeling that she had another guy, so I texted her that I'm like, jealous, but she assured me that she was only at the mall and went back home at 10:30am. I was frustrated, cause she was the moody type girl.

by the way, she had a history of giving other guys a good time, as in like, sex, and I did have a sex history too with a couple of other girls before I met her.

now I'm having problems cause she's not contacting me the way it was before, so I did the NC. the other night we texted, but i fell asleep. yesterday she didnt msg me, so I msged and called her up 2am in the morning. i got no reply until right now, no call even...what do i do? i've got feelings for her already. this feeling is plain BS cause i'm not having any problems with my previous girls but now I feel like i'm an ass waiting for her to call. I don't wanna move on yet.

I need help badly. money is hard here in the country and I sacrificed and adjusted a lot just to get to this point with her. it's like, I can get my previous girls to have sex with but I just want her at this point. no one else matters right now. I'm still in the NC mode since I last texted her because the ball is in her court... please, I need help.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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When they leave you hanging at the height of your infatuation phase thats when you get severe oneitis. Its bullcrap but it happens. Lesson learned, dont get wrapped up mentally early on.
 
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keep busy.
in the mean time, work out, read, go pishing lol.
 
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thorwynn said:
Hi, I am a Filipino, I met this girl at a party of my friend, we had sex during that time, and dated 2 weeks after....we had a great time, had great sex every time we met on a date. she always came on me whenever we do each other for 6 hours, yup the last time we did was 1:30 until 7am. we have been dating for 3 months already. she got work as an OR nurse but I'm still a graduating student. she also admitted that she has feelings for me, she also said she'd like to take some more time to get to know each other.

last week after she went back from macau, we were supposed to meet but i didn't mention it cause I had no money that time to have a date with her. and she was on her ovulation period so it wasn't safe to have sex. when we were msging each other there was this gut feeling that she had another guy, so I texted her that I'm like, jealous, but she assured me that she was only at the mall and went back home at 10:30am. I was frustrated, cause she was the moody type girl.

by the way, she had a history of giving other guys a good time, as in like, sex, and I did have a sex history too with a couple of other girls before I met her.

now I'm having problems cause she's not contacting me the way it was before, so I did the NC. the other night we texted, but i fell asleep. yesterday she didnt msg me, so I msged and called her up 2am in the morning. i got no reply until right now, no call even...what do i do? i've got feelings for her already. this feeling is plain BS cause i'm not having any problems with my previous girls but now I feel like i'm an ass waiting for her to call. I don't wanna move on yet.

I need help badly. money is hard here in the country and I sacrificed and adjusted a lot just to get to this point with her. it's like, I can get my previous girls to have sex with but I just want her at this point. no one else matters right now. I'm still in the NC mode since I last texted her because the ball is in her court... please, I need help.
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You are in deep shit. As I was reading your post, I was highlighting key points when I read that you already developed feelings (after only 3 months).

You need to see other girls, asap. Keeping your mind off her is the best thing for you right now.
 
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Guys, can you give more suggestions to prevent this from happening again? I've been doing the lessons here in sosuave, but I am still in the learning process, I still don't know everything, but so far everything in the lessons were very effective which I used with the other girls I had before. I'm still keeping an open mind from you DJs.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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experience bro. make mistakes. you cant be perfect all the time. so you gain more confidence in making mistakes, then learning from them.

You have an open mind which a good attitude.
 
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Thorwynn, you need to protect your heart by going in slowly...i.e integrate the person you have feelings for "slowly" into your life. Else if you make them your everything and they leave you you will have nothing and feel like ****. Always make sure they are meeting you in the middle and if not back up...
 
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alright guys, but what if I want her back? what do I do now?
 
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nothing...go and find someone else who is interested in you. She is not interested.
 
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i'm keeping my mind open but are there any more suggestions other than what window said? im seeing other girls already. but i said, IF i want her back, what should I do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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thorwynn said:
i'm keeping my mind open but are there any more suggestions other than what window said? im seeing other girls already. but i said, IF i want her back, what should I do?
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Sometimes you just don't get what you want.
The only thing you can really do is go about your life and if she comes back, she comes back.
There are no solutions other than very temporary that in the long run will cost you money and self respect.

It's sad and I feel your pain, but the best way to get her back is to appear to not want her back.

Question is ... why would you want her back? She sounds a tad flaky.

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