escaleraroyal
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hey today i talked to a chick and I asked her "what did you like about your ex-bf?" is it a good question to ask? or am I asking the wrong question?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What did you like about him?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
thevilittletroll
Senior Don Juan
you are going to get a lot of answers like this:escaleraroyal said:
i dont know what it was about him
there was just something about him
i dont know, i just was attracted to him
it was the way he made me feel
he had an aura about him
a bunch of crap like that. women cant describe attraction to you. to them its an emotional feeling. a better question to ask is what they hated about their last boyfriend. those are usually the things she was actually attracted to.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Wait...I dont understand...how could this possibly be a good question?escaleraroyal said:
So you ask a girl that, and she tells you what she like about her ex bf. And that's supposed to make her hot for you?
Avoid topics like past relationships. This is girl talk. Avoid avoid avoid. If a girl starts talking about that stuff, deflect it with a joke.
Girl: "My ex? He was a doctor, a hunter, and in his spare time, he saved orphans."
You: "Oh yeah? Sounds like a real loser. That's why you should hang out with guys like me."
If a girl talks about France, ask her "What did you like about France?" If she talks about a music group, "What do you like about them?"
Don't ask about the ex. Once again...its girl talk.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
ImWithTheDJ
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don't question your questions
I've read that asking what they liked about their ex is actually a good question because the woman will subconsciously associate you with the good feelings she had for him.
I think early on in the relationship it's appropriate to talk about their recent ex's (you learn a lot about them), but if she keeps talking about them for more than the first month it's a bad sign, as it likely means she liked them better than you (or is still seeing them).
I think early on in the relationship it's appropriate to talk about their recent ex's (you learn a lot about them), but if she keeps talking about them for more than the first month it's a bad sign, as it likely means she liked them better than you (or is still seeing them).