escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 21, 2008
- Messages
- 560
- Reaction score
- 43
hey today i talked to a chick and I asked her "what did you like about your ex-bf?" is it a good question to ask? or am I asking the wrong question?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What did you like about him?
- Thread starter escaleraroyal
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
thevilittletroll
Senior Don Juan
you are going to get a lot of answers like this:escaleraroyal said:
i dont know what it was about him
there was just something about him
i dont know, i just was attracted to him
it was the way he made me feel
he had an aura about him
a bunch of crap like that. women cant describe attraction to you. to them its an emotional feeling. a better question to ask is what they hated about their last boyfriend. those are usually the things she was actually attracted to.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Wait...I dont understand...how could this possibly be a good question?escaleraroyal said:
So you ask a girl that, and she tells you what she like about her ex bf. And that's supposed to make her hot for you?
Avoid topics like past relationships. This is girl talk. Avoid avoid avoid. If a girl starts talking about that stuff, deflect it with a joke.
Girl: "My ex? He was a doctor, a hunter, and in his spare time, he saved orphans."
You: "Oh yeah? Sounds like a real loser. That's why you should hang out with guys like me."
If a girl talks about France, ask her "What did you like about France?" If she talks about a music group, "What do you like about them?"
Don't ask about the ex. Once again...its girl talk.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
ImWithTheDJ
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 30, 2011
- Messages
- 39
- Reaction score
- 1
don't question your questions
I've read that asking what they liked about their ex is actually a good question because the woman will subconsciously associate you with the good feelings she had for him.
I think early on in the relationship it's appropriate to talk about their recent ex's (you learn a lot about them), but if she keeps talking about them for more than the first month it's a bad sign, as it likely means she liked them better than you (or is still seeing them).
I think early on in the relationship it's appropriate to talk about their recent ex's (you learn a lot about them), but if she keeps talking about them for more than the first month it's a bad sign, as it likely means she liked them better than you (or is still seeing them).