escaleraroyal
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hey today i talked to a chick and I asked her "what did you like about your ex-bf?" is it a good question to ask? or am I asking the wrong question?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What did you like about him?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
thevilittletroll
Senior Don Juan
you are going to get a lot of answers like this:escaleraroyal said:
i dont know what it was about him
there was just something about him
i dont know, i just was attracted to him
it was the way he made me feel
he had an aura about him
a bunch of crap like that. women cant describe attraction to you. to them its an emotional feeling. a better question to ask is what they hated about their last boyfriend. those are usually the things she was actually attracted to.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Wait...I dont understand...how could this possibly be a good question?escaleraroyal said:
So you ask a girl that, and she tells you what she like about her ex bf. And that's supposed to make her hot for you?
Avoid topics like past relationships. This is girl talk. Avoid avoid avoid. If a girl starts talking about that stuff, deflect it with a joke.
Girl: "My ex? He was a doctor, a hunter, and in his spare time, he saved orphans."
You: "Oh yeah? Sounds like a real loser. That's why you should hang out with guys like me."
If a girl talks about France, ask her "What did you like about France?" If she talks about a music group, "What do you like about them?"
Don't ask about the ex. Once again...its girl talk.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ImWithTheDJ
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don't question your questions
I've read that asking what they liked about their ex is actually a good question because the woman will subconsciously associate you with the good feelings she had for him.
I think early on in the relationship it's appropriate to talk about their recent ex's (you learn a lot about them), but if she keeps talking about them for more than the first month it's a bad sign, as it likely means she liked them better than you (or is still seeing them).
I think early on in the relationship it's appropriate to talk about their recent ex's (you learn a lot about them), but if she keeps talking about them for more than the first month it's a bad sign, as it likely means she liked them better than you (or is still seeing them).