"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What did I do wrong?

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alright, i am transfering to a new school and during registration i meet this new girl. she helps out for the school and shows new people around and ****. so we chat for like 5 minutes. the next day of registration i see her again and we have a good talk for like 10 minutes and she was laughing and it looked like she was enjoying talking to me. the whole time shes giving me good body language and smiling and ****. so then today was the first day of school and i see her in the halls. and i say whats up and we talk for a second and then i say give me your number and then she's like "no, not right now... sorry" WTF????????????????????? I seriously do not understand what i did wrong. i dont know how i couldve done it any better. this makes no sense. please tell me whats going on.
 

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Originally posted by LaDanian Tomlinson
give me your number
hey girl.. "give me your number"


???


if you have a chance to talk to her again, ask her for it... don't be like... "give me your number"

more like

"nice talkin to you.. but i have to go to class, can i talk to you later? what's your number?"
 
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ahhhh **** man. i shouldve said that.

but, still, why would she say no? saying "give me your number" cant be enough for her to say no. i heard that if you say "can i have your number" shows weakness and gives her prizability. so thats why i said give me your number.

but i still dont know why she said no?
 

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Bell maybe, you couldve talked to after school about the number... since she said no between classes
 

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You were too eager maybe?

I don't know the situation enough.

But maybe you should of waited for her to invite you to go hang out, at like lunch or something. You don't always have to start up a convo everytime you see a chick. Just a hi will work.

There is still hope though. Just wait around.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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anyone else know why she said no?
 

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Well she did say not right now. At least you have some chance. Just do the basics:
Kino, talk to her about her, say that you like the same things so you two have something in common, be seen with other girls, C&F, eye contact, etc.
Then at the end of one of your convos ( AND MAKE SURE that you say this when she is on a HIGH, like when she is laughing and having a good time. As soon as she has a good time you want to take it away from her leaving her wanting more) just say something along the lines of:
"I have to get going, but it was nice talking to you. Why don't you write your e-mail for me?" AS she is writing her e-mail say "Go ahead and write your number too"
Works everytime.

AND finally the most important part:
LET US KNOW HOW IT GOES!
 
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alright guys, thanks for the help. i appreciate it.
 

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Originally posted by Phat
Bluelemond...Wow man thank u so much for posting that link. Man u saved me. wow...after reading that. Im going to approach like every girl. Man u are a life saver man. thank u sooo much for posting it. the guy who started this threat should read it to.

what link?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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