"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What course of action do you use when a girl says "You're not my type?"

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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nismo-4 said:
Have you had a girl say this to you? What do you guys do when it happens?
Honestly,she shouldn't be saying that to you at all.


If a girl tells you that you're not her type,then you try to convince her that you are her type,you just proved her point.



I take it this comment of her was in RESPONSE to something you said to her.


So what did you say?



Sure you could come up with some smart alek reply to her saying that to you,but the point of you approaching her was to get a date,not trade insults.




Go ahead and tell a girl off if you want,but...you should focus on how you approached her and what you said to her that made her give you that response in the first place.
 

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Come on, lower your standards. I had to lower mine to talk to you.

I hate seeking approval especially from a girl, and therefore, I will not try to convince her to like me. Rather, I will push her away, so it's 50/50. But this is me, everyone has their own personality and own style.
 

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her: "You're not my type."

Me: "It's cool. You're not my type either. We have something in common. Let's go grab a drink."
 

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It is unusual to say that out loud, so it seems to me that if a girl does so, she really isn't interested, and you should move on rather than waste time. You have to try many different girls.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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this happens all the time. girls say to me "i dont like younger guys.", "im not dating anymore", "i don't date within my social circle". i've heard them all. just don't take any of that information seriously, personally, or act because of those things that they said. they mainly say those things to see if your man enough to break the barriers they have set up because they believe that those types of guys aren't man enough or in the past havent lived up to the standards.
 

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AAAgent said:
this happens all the time. girls say to me "i dont like younger guys.", "im not dating anymore", "i don't date within my social circle". i've heard them all. just don't take any of that information seriously, personally, or act because of those things that they said. they mainly say those things to see if your man enough to break the barriers they have set up because they believe that those types of guys aren't man enough or in the past havent lived up to the standards.
So how would you be man enough to break those barriers?
 

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She says," You are not my type..."

You say," Thanks for saying it first." (look at her dead pan serious)

She, " What! ..( splutters mumbles and fumbles.)
"What do you mean by that ?"

You reply, " You would be better suited to someone more like you." (and you just slowly turn and walk away.
 

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Her: "You're not my type."

Me: "Neither are you but I'm kinda horny at the moment"


Cheers!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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either

A) some random **** that has nothing to do with what she just said
B) some random **** that has nothing to do with what she just said

(which is generally my response to anything)
 

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when they come up with those barriers i just pretend like i don't hear them. Then i'll ask them out in a way that confuses them. It will be totally unexpected and they're not sure if i'm asking them out just to eat or asking them out on a dinner date. after that she'll realize that she just dated a guy she refused too and its too late. it's happened so many times especially recently for me.

rules with older women

don't rush things, rushing things just justifies her thinking about younger men being immature.

two be bold and aggressive but at the same time gentlemanly.

3- show her than u can be man enough to take care of her and lead the way, pay the bill sometimes, introduce her, basically make her feel comfortable around you.
 

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Anytime I ran into this line it was usually a sh!t test. I've only heard this from the more hotter girls I've approached. I generally just dodge the statement. It's a test to see your emotional reaction, if you show any type of emotional change in behavior then you've failed. Notice how these lines only usually come after you've DHV'd yourself? It's a test.
 

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I LOVE when this happens. Perfect opportunity to work some C&F or build some deep rapport.

"What, awesome's not your type?"

I've gotten into it with girl before when they say this. After they say it I go into something like: "You have a type? It's weird that you would pigeon hole yourself like that. Are you close minded?" Stuff like that. It usually makes them self-conscious and they start qualifying themselves like crazy.

All in all it can be a good way to have her start talking about herself or it can be a good time for you to let your humor and personality shine through.
 

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Did she say that word for word or did she imply it?

I had two girls who were very much into me telling me about their type - which is very much not like me. I took the first one seriously and didn't escalate (I was actually sitting on her bed at the time), only to find out later through a mutual friend that she was pissed that I didn't do anything. With the second girl, having learned the lesson, I sealed the deal.

How I did it: I asked her to describe the guy that's her type, and how each of his qualities makes her feel. Then I made her feel in the exact same way.

I've also slept with women who later told me that initially they didn't think they would, as they've never been with "my type" before. They didn't say anything before & during the seduction and just let me do my thing.

AAAgent said:
they mainly say those things to see if your man enough to break the barriers they have set up because they believe that those types of guys aren't man enough or in the past havent lived up to the standards.
I don't think women purposely say these things. They bring the "type" thing up because you're doing something at the time that's turning them on / thinking about sex with you, so their reaction is to find a way to rationalise those strange feelings. Only the most fooked in the head would say on purpose that as a sh!t test.

Guys, if you're gonna use C&F, you have to use those lines while being totally unphased by the fact that you, on paper, are NOT her type. Be the guy who's casual & cool about chatting to women on the topic of what turn them on and explore those feelings with them. Don't worry about the Friend Zone here - no guy in the Friend Zone talks about that topic with her. You also have a bonus: she cannot help thinking about having sex with you while discussing that topic.

If you do C&F as if it's some kind of contest between you and the guy of "her type", and you're trying to sell yourself to her, then you've already given her the power / frame. You won't get anywhere.

Don't get your hopes up though if you try my way, because at the end, you STILL may not be her type. However, surprise surprise, it does not mean that she won't fvck you to find out. Women do fvck guys that they don't want to date, and those guys do not count in their playbook. Half of the women I've slept with are in that category: they don't want to date me, don't want to acknowledge that we're anything but regular friends who have no "nudge nudge wink wink" secret - yet we still fvck.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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