nismo-4
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Have you had a girl say this to you? What do you guys do when it happens?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Honestly,she shouldn't be saying that to you at all.nismo-4 said:Have you had a girl say this to you? What do you guys do when it happens?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So how would you be man enough to break those barriers?AAAgent said:this happens all the time. girls say to me "i dont like younger guys.", "im not dating anymore", "i don't date within my social circle". i've heard them all. just don't take any of that information seriously, personally, or act because of those things that they said. they mainly say those things to see if your man enough to break the barriers they have set up because they believe that those types of guys aren't man enough or in the past havent lived up to the standards.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I don't think women purposely say these things. They bring the "type" thing up because you're doing something at the time that's turning them on / thinking about sex with you, so their reaction is to find a way to rationalise those strange feelings. Only the most fooked in the head would say on purpose that as a sh!t test.AAAgent said:they mainly say those things to see if your man enough to break the barriers they have set up because they believe that those types of guys aren't man enough or in the past havent lived up to the standards.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.