nismo-4
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Have you had a girl say this to you? What do you guys do when it happens?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What course of action do you use when a girl says "You're not my type?"
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Honestly,she shouldn't be saying that to you at all.nismo-4 said:
If a girl tells you that you're not her type,then you try to convince her that you are her type,you just proved her point.
I take it this comment of her was in RESPONSE to something you said to her.
So what did you say?
Sure you could come up with some smart alek reply to her saying that to you,but the point of you approaching her was to get a date,not trade insults.
Go ahead and tell a girl off if you want,but...you should focus on how you approached her and what you said to her that made her give you that response in the first place.
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Come on, lower your standards. I had to lower mine to talk to you.
I hate seeking approval especially from a girl, and therefore, I will not try to convince her to like me. Rather, I will push her away, so it's 50/50. But this is me, everyone has their own personality and own style.
I hate seeking approval especially from a girl, and therefore, I will not try to convince her to like me. Rather, I will push her away, so it's 50/50. But this is me, everyone has their own personality and own style.
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her: "You're not my type."
Me: "It's cool. You're not my type either. We have something in common. Let's go grab a drink."
Me: "It's cool. You're not my type either. We have something in common. Let's go grab a drink."
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
this happens all the time. girls say to me "i dont like younger guys.", "im not dating anymore", "i don't date within my social circle". i've heard them all. just don't take any of that information seriously, personally, or act because of those things that they said. they mainly say those things to see if your man enough to break the barriers they have set up because they believe that those types of guys aren't man enough or in the past havent lived up to the standards.
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So how would you be man enough to break those barriers?AAAgent said:
jophil28
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She says," You are not my type..."
You say," Thanks for saying it first." (look at her dead pan serious)
She, " What! ..( splutters mumbles and fumbles.)
"What do you mean by that ?"
You reply, " You would be better suited to someone more like you." (and you just slowly turn and walk away.
You say," Thanks for saying it first." (look at her dead pan serious)
She, " What! ..( splutters mumbles and fumbles.)
"What do you mean by that ?"
You reply, " You would be better suited to someone more like you." (and you just slowly turn and walk away.
Da Realist
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Her: You're not my type.
You: I know. I'm better.
You: I know. I'm better.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
when they come up with those barriers i just pretend like i don't hear them. Then i'll ask them out in a way that confuses them. It will be totally unexpected and they're not sure if i'm asking them out just to eat or asking them out on a dinner date. after that she'll realize that she just dated a guy she refused too and its too late. it's happened so many times especially recently for me.
rules with older women
don't rush things, rushing things just justifies her thinking about younger men being immature.
two be bold and aggressive but at the same time gentlemanly.
3- show her than u can be man enough to take care of her and lead the way, pay the bill sometimes, introduce her, basically make her feel comfortable around you.
rules with older women
don't rush things, rushing things just justifies her thinking about younger men being immature.
two be bold and aggressive but at the same time gentlemanly.
3- show her than u can be man enough to take care of her and lead the way, pay the bill sometimes, introduce her, basically make her feel comfortable around you.
Scars
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Anytime I ran into this line it was usually a sh!t test. I've only heard this from the more hotter girls I've approached. I generally just dodge the statement. It's a test to see your emotional reaction, if you show any type of emotional change in behavior then you've failed. Notice how these lines only usually come after you've DHV'd yourself? It's a test.
I LOVE when this happens. Perfect opportunity to work some C&F or build some deep rapport.
"What, awesome's not your type?"
I've gotten into it with girl before when they say this. After they say it I go into something like: "You have a type? It's weird that you would pigeon hole yourself like that. Are you close minded?" Stuff like that. It usually makes them self-conscious and they start qualifying themselves like crazy.
All in all it can be a good way to have her start talking about herself or it can be a good time for you to let your humor and personality shine through.
"What, awesome's not your type?"
I've gotten into it with girl before when they say this. After they say it I go into something like: "You have a type? It's weird that you would pigeon hole yourself like that. Are you close minded?" Stuff like that. It usually makes them self-conscious and they start qualifying themselves like crazy.
All in all it can be a good way to have her start talking about herself or it can be a good time for you to let your humor and personality shine through.
Did she say that word for word or did she imply it?
I had two girls who were very much into me telling me about their type - which is very much not like me. I took the first one seriously and didn't escalate (I was actually sitting on her bed at the time), only to find out later through a mutual friend that she was pissed that I didn't do anything. With the second girl, having learned the lesson, I sealed the deal.
How I did it: I asked her to describe the guy that's her type, and how each of his qualities makes her feel. Then I made her feel in the exact same way.
I've also slept with women who later told me that initially they didn't think they would, as they've never been with "my type" before. They didn't say anything before & during the seduction and just let me do my thing.
Guys, if you're gonna use C&F, you have to use those lines while being totally unphased by the fact that you, on paper, are NOT her type. Be the guy who's casual & cool about chatting to women on the topic of what turn them on and explore those feelings with them. Don't worry about the Friend Zone here - no guy in the Friend Zone talks about that topic with her. You also have a bonus: she cannot help thinking about having sex with you while discussing that topic.
If you do C&F as if it's some kind of contest between you and the guy of "her type", and you're trying to sell yourself to her, then you've already given her the power / frame. You won't get anywhere.
Don't get your hopes up though if you try my way, because at the end, you STILL may not be her type. However, surprise surprise, it does not mean that she won't fvck you to find out. Women do fvck guys that they don't want to date, and those guys do not count in their playbook. Half of the women I've slept with are in that category: they don't want to date me, don't want to acknowledge that we're anything but regular friends who have no "nudge nudge wink wink" secret - yet we still fvck.
I had two girls who were very much into me telling me about their type - which is very much not like me. I took the first one seriously and didn't escalate (I was actually sitting on her bed at the time), only to find out later through a mutual friend that she was pissed that I didn't do anything. With the second girl, having learned the lesson, I sealed the deal.
How I did it: I asked her to describe the guy that's her type, and how each of his qualities makes her feel. Then I made her feel in the exact same way.
I've also slept with women who later told me that initially they didn't think they would, as they've never been with "my type" before. They didn't say anything before & during the seduction and just let me do my thing.
I don't think women purposely say these things. They bring the "type" thing up because you're doing something at the time that's turning them on / thinking about sex with you, so their reaction is to find a way to rationalise those strange feelings. Only the most fooked in the head would say on purpose that as a sh!t test.AAAgent said:
Guys, if you're gonna use C&F, you have to use those lines while being totally unphased by the fact that you, on paper, are NOT her type. Be the guy who's casual & cool about chatting to women on the topic of what turn them on and explore those feelings with them. Don't worry about the Friend Zone here - no guy in the Friend Zone talks about that topic with her. You also have a bonus: she cannot help thinking about having sex with you while discussing that topic.
If you do C&F as if it's some kind of contest between you and the guy of "her type", and you're trying to sell yourself to her, then you've already given her the power / frame. You won't get anywhere.
Don't get your hopes up though if you try my way, because at the end, you STILL may not be her type. However, surprise surprise, it does not mean that she won't fvck you to find out. Women do fvck guys that they don't want to date, and those guys do not count in their playbook. Half of the women I've slept with are in that category: they don't want to date me, don't want to acknowledge that we're anything but regular friends who have no "nudge nudge wink wink" secret - yet we still fvck.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.