TempestOwl
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I'm from the US, but have been to Canada.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Those are all European influenced countries, which out of those is your favorite?England, France, Spain, United States, and Canada.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Probably the United States, but only because they have both Disney and Universal Parks. If that want a factor for me, It would be harder to choose a favoriteThose are all European influenced countries, which out of those is your favorite?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yeah mon. I never got there but the southern Caribbean is great. Martinique was cool, island climate but French culture. The pastry was amazing but their body odor was rank.Trinidad
I'm from Canada, visited USA (various dates - latest 2015), Israel (2010), Trinidad (1984,1985,1996,2008,2010,2012), Italy (2006)
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Toronto is very diverse, maybe you might meet people within your own community here.Id like to visit Toronto someday and see how Liberal and artistic and trendy it actually is in person. I sense the people there are more open to have a conversation with you on the streets depending on the vibe of the venue.
Toronto is very diverse, maybe you might meet people within your own community here.
I don't have experience or bandwith to confirm or deny that...but I think if you are a clear ethnic (ie you are SE Asian) and connect with your own community there then you should do great. When I did have more bandwith in the past I wouldn't say it's easier to form social circles than another place, like the Philippeans. Life is hard here for allot of people and therefore tend to be in their own worlds. Most of non-chad reports of the place here generally has been negative. That's why I feel if I visited a South American country like Brazil or Carribean like Domenican Republics, or South East Asia, I would tend to be more social since that's more normalized in those places. Here is still mostly business mode most of the time.Yeah I thought about visiting, I have an aunt who lives there. Yeah I bet it’s just as diverse as Los Angeles but a little more pleasant and less polluted lol. Seems like a city where you can make a large social circle at your convenience in no time.