TempestOwl
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I'm from the US, but have been to Canada.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Those are all European influenced countries, which out of those is your favorite?England, France, Spain, United States, and Canada.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Probably the United States, but only because they have both Disney and Universal Parks. If that want a factor for me, It would be harder to choose a favoriteThose are all European influenced countries, which out of those is your favorite?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yeah mon. I never got there but the southern Caribbean is great. Martinique was cool, island climate but French culture. The pastry was amazing but their body odor was rank.Trinidad
I'm from Canada, visited USA (various dates - latest 2015), Israel (2010), Trinidad (1984,1985,1996,2008,2010,2012), Italy (2006)
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Toronto is very diverse, maybe you might meet people within your own community here.Id like to visit Toronto someday and see how Liberal and artistic and trendy it actually is in person. I sense the people there are more open to have a conversation with you on the streets depending on the vibe of the venue.
Toronto is very diverse, maybe you might meet people within your own community here.
I don't have experience or bandwith to confirm or deny that...but I think if you are a clear ethnic (ie you are SE Asian) and connect with your own community there then you should do great. When I did have more bandwith in the past I wouldn't say it's easier to form social circles than another place, like the Philippeans. Life is hard here for allot of people and therefore tend to be in their own worlds. Most of non-chad reports of the place here generally has been negative. That's why I feel if I visited a South American country like Brazil or Carribean like Domenican Republics, or South East Asia, I would tend to be more social since that's more normalized in those places. Here is still mostly business mode most of the time.Yeah I thought about visiting, I have an aunt who lives there. Yeah I bet it’s just as diverse as Los Angeles but a little more pleasant and less polluted lol. Seems like a city where you can make a large social circle at your convenience in no time.