TempestOwl
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I'm from the US, but have been to Canada.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What countries have you been to?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Travel memoir21
Master Don Juan
-USA, Mexico, Japan, South Korea, Tai Pei, Philippines, California…lol
Doctor Europeo
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England, France, Spain, United States, and Canada.
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Master Don Juan
Those are all European influenced countries, which out of those is your favorite?
sevbucmash
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Russia, Ukraine, Uzbekistan, Abkhazia, Armenia, Turkey, Austria, Poland, Czechia, Slovakia, I'm from the U.S.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
St Lucia is beautiful.
BackInTheGame78
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Canada, Mexico, Jamaica, Bahamas, St Thomas, Puerto Rico, Cayman Islands, Bermuda, France, Germany, Netherlands, Belgium, Luxembourg.
ManFromTartarus
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Korea
Japan
Philipines
Bahamas
Mexico
(from USA)
Japan
Philipines
Bahamas
Mexico
(from USA)
Doctor Europeo
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Probably the United States, but only because they have both Disney and Universal Parks. If that want a factor for me, It would be harder to choose a favorite
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Master Don Juan
I arrive on Christmas Day back to the states in the evening. Hate The Air Port experience, Im not a big fan of riding 12 hour flights anymore and having to go through annoying TSA in Dallas.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Travel memoir21
Master Don Juan
Man one of the things Ive noticed since coming back to the states, is the people tends to be living in their own cocoon man. I just invited a few friends for dinner at a pub and they all canceled. Abroad this is not the case, I always have someone available to join me, even if it’s one person. We totally need to come out of our shell and live harmoniously in a virtuous manner so things can progress around here.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Yeah mon. I never got there but the southern Caribbean is great. Martinique was cool, island climate but French culture. The pastry was amazing but their body odor was rank.
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Master Don Juan
Id like to visit Toronto someday and see how Liberal and artistic and trendy it actually is in person. I sense the people there are more open to have a conversation with you on the streets depending on the vibe of the venue.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
corrector
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Toronto is very diverse, maybe you might meet people within your own community here.
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Master Don Juan
Yeah I thought about visiting, I have an aunt who lives there. Yeah I bet it’s just as diverse as Los Angeles but a little more pleasant and less polluted lol. Seems like a city where you can make a large social circle at your convenience in no time.
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I don't have experience or bandwith to confirm or deny that...but I think if you are a clear ethnic (ie you are SE Asian) and connect with your own community there then you should do great. When I did have more bandwith in the past I wouldn't say it's easier to form social circles than another place, like the Philippeans. Life is hard here for allot of people and therefore tend to be in their own worlds. Most of non-chad reports of the place here generally has been negative. That's why I feel if I visited a South American country like Brazil or Carribean like Domenican Republics, or South East Asia, I would tend to be more social since that's more normalized in those places. Here is still mostly business mode most of the time.