Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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what changes when you get a gf

kickureface

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what "rules" change when you get a gf? im talking about a lot of things, like no buying flowers to....yes buying them etc.
thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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absolutely nothing.
the only real rule that changes is that you are now tied to one pvssy until the end of the relationship.:rolleyes:
haha i'm not a relationship kinda guy. but you shouldnt change much. what you're doing right now seems to be working on her, why change it?
and the girl i'm kinda with gets super pissed wheni flirt with other girls..so u mgiht have to keep flirting down abit. w/e.
 

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A girlfriend is not supposed to change your life, or become your life. She is to enhance your already awesome life. If she isn't doing that, then I have my favorite word for that...
NEXT

--Mission
 

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Mission: He wasn't asking how a girlfiend changes your life, he was asking if his game should be any different around her.

In my opinion when you have a girlfriend you need to open up just a little bit more, the DJ mindset doesn't let someone get very close to the real you and if you have a relationship without some sort of deep emotional connection then the girl is going to start wondering about it and be unhappy.

I am curious to see what anyone that has been in a LTR has to say about this/anyone with more experience then me. Right now I've had a girlfriend for around a week (and it's been wonderful.. heh) and she is adicted to me and I don't want to **** this up for a long time.
 

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once you have got the girl and you 2 are officiolly a couple, i dont think it is necessary to continue the DJ mindset, so gradually over a period of a month or 2, drop the DJ mind set, and concentrate on being yourself.. if she doesnt like it then NEXT,

i dont know about you but i couldnt have a long term relationship based on a a lie... may be a STR but never a LTR, i would end up being depressed becuase im living a lie..
Well I'm not sure if you should go to that extreme. For one once you are truly a DJ it accually becomes part of your personality and becomes a part of who you are. Granted still have your own hobbies and interests but the way you present yourself and talk to people will have changed dramatically.

If you back down and start loosing your edge the relationship will suffer. It's all about finding the balence between staying confident and a man and opening yourself up so the relationship doesn't feel cheap.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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