"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What cause negative thoughts??

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Maxtro

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Negative thoughts are caused by negative experiences. It's as simple as that. A person who hasn't gone through a lot of bad events is generally happier than somebody who has had bad stuff.

My youngest brother is turning 14 soon and he is a lot more happy go lucky than me and my 22 year old brother were at that age. Why do I think that is? It's because his parents weren't fighting and didn't get divorced and they live together. He's my half brother and he has a much more stable and happy life than me and my 22 year old brother had.

Both me and my brother are pretty screwed up and he even attempted suicide. I believe that our parents getting divorced messed up both our childhoods. His got even more messed up because we moved to live with our Dad when he was 10 and our Dad remarried and they had a son soon after. So all of a sudden he's no longer with his mom, and he was no longer the baby.

We haded our half-brother for several years. Now I love the kid and he's my little kid brother who looks up to me, but my other brother still talks to him with anger in his words.

Getting back on topic. If my parents didn't get divorced and had a happy marriage, I think I would be very similar to how my half-brother is now.
 

Interceptor

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Unhappiness and dissatisfaction.

When you feel powerless, you give in to the negative thoughts.
They then imprint themselves, and become a dynamo, feeding off themselves,a dn working themselves into your body.


You need to look at how to replace those with positive energy and optimism, and taking back control of your life.
Believe me, it's not all your 'fault'.

Most of the people you see next to you are in the same boat as you.
Some hide it better than others.

In addition, it is hard to fight back a belief when you see thousands of people giving you evidence to the contrary.


Find the CAUSE of POSITIVE THOUGHTS.
And do that
HAVE THEM, instead of the NEGATIVE one.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mavrick

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Negative thoughts are a product of your environments and how you were raised. It's how you were taught to be as a person. This stuff is habit. It's deep in the subconcious and it has to be reprogrammed or replaced with positive thinking.

Most people who think negative don't even know any other way of thinking. It's up to you to find out what to change and how to change it. It looks like you're already beginning to search.
 
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