"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What cause negative thoughts??

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Maxtro

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Negative thoughts are caused by negative experiences. It's as simple as that. A person who hasn't gone through a lot of bad events is generally happier than somebody who has had bad stuff.

My youngest brother is turning 14 soon and he is a lot more happy go lucky than me and my 22 year old brother were at that age. Why do I think that is? It's because his parents weren't fighting and didn't get divorced and they live together. He's my half brother and he has a much more stable and happy life than me and my 22 year old brother had.

Both me and my brother are pretty screwed up and he even attempted suicide. I believe that our parents getting divorced messed up both our childhoods. His got even more messed up because we moved to live with our Dad when he was 10 and our Dad remarried and they had a son soon after. So all of a sudden he's no longer with his mom, and he was no longer the baby.

We haded our half-brother for several years. Now I love the kid and he's my little kid brother who looks up to me, but my other brother still talks to him with anger in his words.

Getting back on topic. If my parents didn't get divorced and had a happy marriage, I think I would be very similar to how my half-brother is now.
 

Interceptor

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Unhappiness and dissatisfaction.

When you feel powerless, you give in to the negative thoughts.
They then imprint themselves, and become a dynamo, feeding off themselves,a dn working themselves into your body.


You need to look at how to replace those with positive energy and optimism, and taking back control of your life.
Believe me, it's not all your 'fault'.

Most of the people you see next to you are in the same boat as you.
Some hide it better than others.

In addition, it is hard to fight back a belief when you see thousands of people giving you evidence to the contrary.


Find the CAUSE of POSITIVE THOUGHTS.
And do that
HAVE THEM, instead of the NEGATIVE one.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Mavrick

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Negative thoughts are a product of your environments and how you were raised. It's how you were taught to be as a person. This stuff is habit. It's deep in the subconcious and it has to be reprogrammed or replaced with positive thinking.

Most people who think negative don't even know any other way of thinking. It's up to you to find out what to change and how to change it. It looks like you're already beginning to search.
 
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