"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What can you tell me about paid vs free dating sites?

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Given my location, online dating is a must if I want to have any sort of normal dating life. But the free sites like OkCupid and POF have a lot of women who aren't serious about meeting up. They are either finnicky, flaky, and just dont respond.

So now Im wondering if paid sites are a good alternative. Ive tried to avoid having to pay a service to meet women...as I used to think it was really lame. But I figure that the women will be more serious about dating if they are paying to meet someone.

I also wonder if most of the women are looking to settle down since they are paying for the service. Ive heard Match and Eharmony do pull in people looking for that. And tbh, Im not at that point in my life yet.

Thoughts?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Usually if they pay it means they have a commitment to ''find someone''.... why waste money right ?

Use the paid and free online.... more options..... more dates = more chance for getting laid and meeting people who will extend your network

Tinder might be a good option to add, including POF, OKcupid and the rest
 

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Given my location, online dating is a must if I want to have any sort of normal dating life. But the free sites like OkCupid and POF have a lot of women who aren't serious about meeting up. They are either finnicky, flaky, and just dont respond.

So now Im wondering if paid sites are a good alternative. Ive tried to avoid having to pay a service to meet women...as I used to think it was really lame. But I figure that the women will be more serious about dating if they are paying to meet someone.

I also wonder if most of the women are looking to settle down since they are paying for the service. Ive heard Match and Eharmony do pull in people looking for that. And tbh, Im not at that point in my life yet.

Thoughts?
Question- why you posting on Reddit about this? You want serious Redpill dating advice that isn't a community you need advice from.

https://dg.reddit.com/r/relationshi...m_here_looking_to_try_out_a_paid_dating_site/
 

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It doesn't hurt to get a diversity of opinions. That's why I posted on reddit. Plus there are a lot more readers on that particular subreddit
 

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Both are a huge waste of time. That includes Tinder as well. Go traditional route, if you are seriously looking for relationship material.

Hit the gym, get in shape, dress well, smell well, and meet girls in real life. For example, coffee shops, book stores, public libraries, shopping malls, concerts, or it could be anywhere.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It doesn't hurt to get a diversity of opinions. That's why I posted on reddit. Plus there are a lot more readers on that particular subreddit
Bluepill and women readers. Not the advice you want. Try Seduction Subreddit.
 

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In answer to your question:

It depends on what you are looking for. I've tried both (because I was annoyed with flakes).

Paid you will get easier dates and less flakes. But the pool is far smaller and usually lower (typically 5-6s with the odd 7 rather than 5-8s)
 

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In answer to your question:

It depends on what you are looking for. I've tried both (because I was annoyed with flakes).

Paid you will get easier dates and less flakes. But the pool is far smaller and usually lower (typically 5-6s with the odd 7 rather than 5-8s)
At least in my area, the pool is not that much smaller than OKC, based on the search Im doing (mid to late 20s women with no kids). However the pool does seem to be more noticeably smaller than POF.

And yeah, I feel like there arent as many women who have the body type Im looking for on Match (slim or athletic and toned) Though I will say there appears to be a nice portion of educated women with decent jobs. It gets tiring wading through the low quality women on POF who have little going for them.

Which paid site did you use specifically?
 

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I used eharmony and a London UK called Lovestruck

Why not try 'once' or bumble for something different?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

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I have used OKC...huge waste of time. I found Eharmony to be the best site for the money. Match is filled with scammers and fake profiles at this point.
 
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