"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bigtrucker2008

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Ok, there's this girl i kinda wanna get to know. I am kinda cool with her, but i know her friends better. I am not 100% sure, but I think she knows I like her.

My question is how can I help this situation? I mean, I wanna get to know her, but I don't wanna be too obvious or seem like I'm REALLY REALLY trying to come on to her. And the thing is even though I think she knows, I also have a feeling that she doesnt care. That type of stuff doesn't happen to me.(If people are attracted to you a lot, you probably know what I mean.)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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I diagnose your post as ONEITIS.
It's quite an unhealthy disease, but you came here for a cure and that's the first step.

Just tell her "hey we gotta chill sometime", and invite her to hang out with you at some place.

The idea here is to be cool about it by not seeming like you want her, that way you're REALLY REALLY not trying to come on to her.
 

Bigtrucker2008

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Uh, I'm not really sure what you mean by "oneitis" cuz I'm new to this forum stuff, sorry......but um, I'm thinking of something else though. I mean, your reply was ok, but I'm thinking of more a "smooth, mature" approach. I just need SOMETHING. Not a "fifteen year old kid" approach.
 

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I don't know, but the "15 year old approach" works. You need to get to know her better if you want a chance.
ONEITIS, if I'm not mistaken, is when you obsess over one person, disregarding others. It is bad.
 

Grand Wizzard Alamar

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Oneitis is when you like one girl. it's sorta a disease in a way lol.
Also, AFC is an acronym for Average Frustrated Chump.

And if you want SOMETHING from me, don't take my 5 words a "fifteen year old kid approach."
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Bigtrucker2008

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This is over now. But I gotta say two things:

1. I got her. Turns out she's been diggin me the whole time. I can't really describe a particular "approach" I used. Just being me. And I know how to get ladies.

2. I don't have "oneitis". Yeah, that is pretty bad. The last time I had "oneitis" was when I was a younger kid. Terrible "disease", lol. But nah, I'm a vet at this. I just needed something for that particular situation.
 
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