Spike_the_cowboy
Master Don Juan
Originally posted by tactic
So what are you saying...?
So who are you asking...?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Originally posted by tactic
So what are you saying...?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Originally posted by tactic
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That's such bullshyt.Originally posted by Spike_the_cowboy
I'm saying that looks do not matter.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Originally posted by tactic
Hey You, any proofs of that looks don't matter and ugly guys can get hot hot hot women?
Tattoo this on your d!ck so you'll remember it: MEN MUST ALWAYS MAKE THE APPROACH!Originally posted by tactic
Um, what??
Girls won't go to you if you don't have looks.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I have been told this ; women Seldom approach guys, even if they find them hot. From experiance, women seem suggest you make a move on them. A common example is talking about someone hitting on them, which would be a suggestion for you to hit on them.Originally posted by tactic
Hey You, any proofs of that looks don't matter and ugly guys can get hot hot hot women?
Not entirely true, women rarely approach average and above average guys, but they will approach hot guys constantly. It’s like they’re brains are fried and their total stimulus seeking zombie AFCs who don’t know how to act around attractive members of the opposite sex. Their brains are liquored up, they're horny, and have to kiss/touch anything that's bright and shiny.Originally posted by true|hockey
I have been told this ; women Seldom approach guys, even if they find them hot. From experiance, women seem suggest you make a move on them. A common example is talking about someone hitting on them, which would be a suggestion for you to hit on them.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Thats because they have money, or they can easily manipulate ugly guys. Most of them are fcuking hot guys behind their backs anyway.Originally posted by tactic
Hey You, any proofs of that looks don't matter and ugly guys can get hot hot hot women?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.