"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What can good-looks do that a personality can not?

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Originally posted by tactic
So what are you saying...?

So who are you asking...?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm saying that looks do not matter. Attitude does. Style does. But looks come in last. If I go down to the mall right now every woman in the place will take notice of me because of my attitude and style. But if I go in a t-shirt and a pair of blue jeans with no attitude or style then almost none of them are going care too much even though I'm a good lookin' guy.

If I wear a suit and walk with pride they'll be wetting their pants. If I dress like a slob then I'll have to work for their attention (yeah... as if).

Also, if you were to actually meet some of these celebrities (and I have met quite a few of them) you would realise that they are not all that cool. You guys have been watching too damned much television. Tune out and tune into the real world for once.
 

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Originally posted by tactic
You

I should have said "You who?"

ROTFL.

You can use my name, Tactic. Its ok...:p
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It is the truth, JT47319. Think what you will.


Wow, so all the true DJers really are gone...
 

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Hey You, any proofs of that looks don't matter and ugly guys can get hot hot hot women?
 

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Nah, that's just KEYBOARD JOCKEY truth is what it is.

I've posted a few dozen examples I have SEEN of what girls will do around attractive guys that they will never do around the average/below average.
 

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Originally posted by tactic
Hey You, any proofs of that looks don't matter and ugly guys can get hot hot hot women?

Yeah, open your eyes and look around you! -- in real life, not on TV.
 

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Originally posted by tactic
Um, what??

Girls won't go to you if you don't have looks.
Tattoo this on your d!ck so you'll remember it: MEN MUST ALWAYS MAKE THE APPROACH!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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My friend was born with good looks for a guy, so I am told by some of his female friends. Pretty much what has been said here was what she said, women find him attractive and want to get to know him better. Regardless of his "game" ( which he has none), he sparks that very important initial interest of the female party.

In short, looks do matter to a point. It has been said on other web pages, and i agree: as long as you do not look like the hunchback of notre dame, you should be able to pull women.
 

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Originally posted by tactic
Hey You, any proofs of that looks don't matter and ugly guys can get hot hot hot women?
I have been told this ; women Seldom approach guys, even if they find them hot. From experiance, women seem suggest you make a move on them. A common example is talking about someone hitting on them, which would be a suggestion for you to hit on them.
 

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Two weeks under my wing and Quasimodo would be bringing in HB10's left and right. Meanwhile you guys would be asking "WTF?".:p
 

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Originally posted by true|hockey
I have been told this ; women Seldom approach guys, even if they find them hot. From experiance, women seem suggest you make a move on them. A common example is talking about someone hitting on them, which would be a suggestion for you to hit on them.
Not entirely true, women rarely approach average and above average guys, but they will approach hot guys constantly. It’s like they’re brains are fried and their total stimulus seeking zombie AFCs who don’t know how to act around attractive members of the opposite sex. Their brains are liquored up, they're horny, and have to kiss/touch anything that's bright and shiny.

Same thing goes for a really peacocked guy in a wild, crazy outfit (see Kinetic Charm’s post). I’ve had girls approach me and touch my **** and I’m like, “Hands off the merchandise there sweetie.”

Anyways, here's a repaste of what I've already posted of REAL LIFE FIELD EXAMPLES...

These are some of things I've seen that a girl will do within 5 minutes of meeting them JUST BASED ON A GUY'S GOOD LOOKS:
  • They drool,
  • stop what they're doing,
  • stare,
  • bump into things,
  • tell they're friends,
  • stare,
  • get intimidated,
  • stutter when talking to the guys,
  • stare,
  • point,
  • nipples get hard,
  • giggle,
  • preen,
  • touch their hair,
  • touch their lips,
  • stare,
  • randomly buy them drinks,
  • randomly hug them,
  • randomly kiss them,
  • stare,
  • reach out to touch them like they were Jesus,
  • try and rub their cyck,
  • stare,
  • drop something so he can pick it up,
  • pull in another girl so he'll be doublely attracted,
  • kiss that girl,
  • dance "stripper" style,
  • get wet and creamy.
 

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JT47319, looks alone are not the cause of that effect. If the good looking guy was a total AFC (like I once was) then he would not have her interest without the right attitude and style to match.


You guys dont know much about women, huh?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I bet alot of guys outside out our world can get more women than you without trying lol.
 

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Back to first principles...
1) It's a numbers game
2) If a woman's interest is high enough, you can get away with murder

So there are LOTS of things that affect a woman's interest, from the car you drive to which rerun of friends was on last night. Good looks is one of these things. It doesn't mean that if you don't look good, you're never gonna get any, nor does it mean that looking good guarantees that you get laid. A lot of things factor into this stuff.

Nobody disputes that ugly guys can get hot babes. But all other things being equal, good looks will just tend to make everything easier for you because:

1) More women have more interest in you.
2) Higher interest = you can afford to screw up more.

It's that simple - it makes things easier. Just like having more cash makes it easier. A good pedigree makes it easier. Taller makes it easier. Good voice, nice clothes, good body, ability to dance, play the guitar and walk on water will all make it easier.
 

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Originally posted by tactic
Hey You, any proofs of that looks don't matter and ugly guys can get hot hot hot women?
Thats because they have money, or they can easily manipulate ugly guys. Most of them are fcuking hot guys behind their backs anyway.
 

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the funniest thing thats always brought up on this topic is


AVG GUY DJ vs HOT GUY AFC.


Look at reality.

What one poster said was best.

If you dont get in the door, aint nobody ever gonna know about your great personality.


WHile anybody can get a girl, the question on this topic was basically what can good looks do that personality can't?

Good looks will get u more dates. It wont gurantee you have a second or third date, but initail dates, it definitely will.

Good Looks will get u more ONS.

Good Looks will get more girls talking about you. You date so and so, her friends think ur hot and on and on.

Good looks will get u forgiven easier. Girls tend to forgive things said and done by a hot guy more so then some COOL Avg looking guy.


While anybody, if they try, can get girls, people who say Looks don't matter spend way too much time online and not in the real world.
 

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I was watching a great documentary on mutations the other day.

Apparently there is not one known genetic abnormality which does not affect the face. The face is, according to experts, the innate indicator of genetic health.

So the quest for beauty is apparently the quest for the most "average" of everything - i.e., the least deformed. That is why the composite of many faces is deemed much more attractive than any one which makes it up. The peculiarities - the minor mutations - are averaged out.

Fact: New born babies will always look at more intently faces deemed attractive. Fu*king new born babies.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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