"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What are your turn off? And how to overcome it?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
nasty fatties = friendzone
I can not stand shallow people. Bore me to tears and their priorities are always so far from what I value in life. Feminist should be a no-brainer. Low intelligence because I get bored easily in conversations if people can't keep up or aren't interested with interesting topics.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
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In some cases the women I ignore refuse to respect my decision to not involve myself with them, which I have every right to do regardless of reason. They do what turns me off more than anything in the world, attempt to control and manipulate. I overcome it using any legal way I know of to make them stay the fvck away from me.
Some turn offs I can just walk away from, problem solved. When that doesn't work they get what's coming for them.
I really don't understand why you'd want to "overcome" something that turns you off. If you don't like something then why would you want to force yourself to like it? It wouldn't be true to oneself.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
gravityeyelids
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Also: obsession with "shallow" things like social media, twitter, celebrities, reality TV, her phone, gossip, etc. This traits are a one way ticket to the "i will never date you" zone for me. A girl whom i date should also be a good friend that i can have interesting and stimulating conversations and share art and music and movies with.
personal hygiene/ sense of style. I make an effort to be well groomed and take care of my body and mind. She needs to shower regularly and be able to dress better than i do. In my experience girls who often wear sweatpants or don't wear makeup out or dont care about fashion... it only gets worse the longer you know them. Pretty soon you're 5 months into dating and she's lounging around in sweatpants and not showering before sex and my attraction is quickly wearing down.