suavesuave
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farting hahahahahahahaahahahHandyAndy said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What Are Your Biggest Fears In Pickup?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
SharinganUser
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My only fear in Pick Up is that I'll pick up an std. Either that or since I am in bangkok right now, that she will turn out to be a man. :nervous:
Demonicale
Senior Don Juan
My first post 
....it starts right here!!.
Ok i guess my main fears are these 2.
1.fear of approach (not as bad as it was)
2.Conversation ( hahah sounds bad) i never seem to be able to talk well to girls unless i've had alot of alcohol.
....it starts right here!!.Ok i guess my main fears are these 2.
1.fear of approach (not as bad as it was)
2.Conversation ( hahah sounds bad) i never seem to be able to talk well to girls unless i've had alot of alcohol.
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@ Demonicale - I've noticed that those two reasons are usually the BIGGEST and most common fears that most people start out with. Luckily, it's actually some of the easiest to overcome.
@ Crimsonking - Have you noticed how much you've changed since that post? Was it for better or worse?
@ Crimsonking - Have you noticed how much you've changed since that post? Was it for better or worse?
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That's fricking awesome dude! Hell yeah, that's the kind of stuff I wish I could hear every single day. And you made an excellent point when you said:Cr1msonKing said:
"and am still trying to change and tweak what I can change."
There's always room for improvement so never be settled (with yourself), and always strive for ways to better. There's ALWAYS room for improvement.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.