suavesuave
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farting hahahahahahahaahahahHandyAndy said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What Are Your Biggest Fears In Pickup?
- Thread starter Social Calibration
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
SharinganUser
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My only fear in Pick Up is that I'll pick up an std. Either that or since I am in bangkok right now, that she will turn out to be a man. :nervous:
Demonicale
Senior Don Juan
My first post 
....it starts right here!!.
Ok i guess my main fears are these 2.
1.fear of approach (not as bad as it was)
2.Conversation ( hahah sounds bad) i never seem to be able to talk well to girls unless i've had alot of alcohol.
....it starts right here!!.Ok i guess my main fears are these 2.
1.fear of approach (not as bad as it was)
2.Conversation ( hahah sounds bad) i never seem to be able to talk well to girls unless i've had alot of alcohol.
Social Calibration
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@ Demonicale - I've noticed that those two reasons are usually the BIGGEST and most common fears that most people start out with. Luckily, it's actually some of the easiest to overcome.
@ Crimsonking - Have you noticed how much you've changed since that post? Was it for better or worse?
@ Crimsonking - Have you noticed how much you've changed since that post? Was it for better or worse?
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That's fricking awesome dude! Hell yeah, that's the kind of stuff I wish I could hear every single day. And you made an excellent point when you said:Cr1msonKing said:
"and am still trying to change and tweak what I can change."
There's always room for improvement so never be settled (with yourself), and always strive for ways to better. There's ALWAYS room for improvement.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.