RichardTheFrog
Banned
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What are your best opening messages on dating sites/apps?
- Thread starter RichardTheFrog
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Macaframalama
Master Don Juan
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I prefer to scan their profile for ideas to banter with, but if their profile is sparse I have a few favorite canned lines... "What's a dude have to do to get on your drunk dial list?". "Trying to figure out if you are going to be the nice girl on my naughty list or the naughty girl on my nice list." Got that one off a member on here. "I've been reading your profile for the past 30 seconds trying to come up with the perfect pick up line, that would have you throwing your panties at me and I have to say, this is the hardest I've ever worked for a woman before." If they don't respond, I like to throw out... "Ya know, I think we would make the perfect couple. Me doing all the talking and you just sitting there looking pretty." I drunk texted the first four bars of "Slob on my knob" by 3-6 Mafia on time and ended up hanging out, so you never know. I usually say whatever I want, short of being a d!ck. If nothing else, I get a kick out of their reaction.
EyeBRollin
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"Hey how are you?"
Trailboss
Don Juan
Just don't say anything *nice*...they get that **** alllll dayyyy loooong! Trust me on this...I have spun a few plates from online....they HATE that ****! You have to get them....intrigued. Intrigue them....and they will be all over you.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
"Let me ask you a question, if you were invisible for a day, what would you do?"
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
logicallefty
Moderator
If a profile says she has Brown eyes and I might open with something about that, like this "They say the eyes are the window into the soul. And I see that yours are brown so you must just be 'full of it'! ( emoji with toung out). "