RichardTheFrog
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What are your best opening messages on dating sites/apps?
- Thread starter RichardTheFrog
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Macaframalama
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I prefer to scan their profile for ideas to banter with, but if their profile is sparse I have a few favorite canned lines... "What's a dude have to do to get on your drunk dial list?". "Trying to figure out if you are going to be the nice girl on my naughty list or the naughty girl on my nice list." Got that one off a member on here. "I've been reading your profile for the past 30 seconds trying to come up with the perfect pick up line, that would have you throwing your panties at me and I have to say, this is the hardest I've ever worked for a woman before." If they don't respond, I like to throw out... "Ya know, I think we would make the perfect couple. Me doing all the talking and you just sitting there looking pretty." I drunk texted the first four bars of "Slob on my knob" by 3-6 Mafia on time and ended up hanging out, so you never know. I usually say whatever I want, short of being a d!ck. If nothing else, I get a kick out of their reaction.
EyeBRollin
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"Hey how are you?"
Trailboss
Don Juan
Just don't say anything *nice*...they get that **** alllll dayyyy loooong! Trust me on this...I have spun a few plates from online....they HATE that ****! You have to get them....intrigued. Intrigue them....and they will be all over you.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
"Let me ask you a question, if you were invisible for a day, what would you do?"
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
logicallefty
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If a profile says she has Brown eyes and I might open with something about that, like this "They say the eyes are the window into the soul. And I see that yours are brown so you must just be 'full of it'! ( emoji with toung out). "