I've been casually dating different women for the past several months. I have noticed a common theme among all of them. Usually after the first time they come over and any sort of physical intimacy happens, they always like to ask me "what are you thinking?" Every single woman has asked me this. From my standpoint, this is usually on date 3 or 4 and way too early for me to discuss exclusivity, etc. Do you guys have a decent way of handling this question?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What are you thinking?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
SargeMaximus
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I get super chatty after sex. It’s actually
Something I’m trying to stop. But in between meeting girls and they text me and ****. Idk wtf to talk about
Something I’m trying to stop. But in between meeting girls and they text me and ****. Idk wtf to talk about
When you don’t know what to say, the tried and true go to convo technique with women is getting them talking about themselves.
They think you’re getting to know them.
Have starter phrases like, and fill in the blanks…
What was your best …….
What do you do when ……..
What was was your most memorable…….
etc.
Leading questions about how she felt or is feeling.
Follow up questions like, How did you feel about that?
Why?
Get and keep her talking with your expertly timed questions and try not to get bored in the process…
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Yeah but that only lasts so long before you run out of material
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Gedmun
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That's when you put your **** in her mouth. Gives you some time to think of new conversation points
Scaramouche
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Hi Cavalier,
This is a sad reflection on your social skills,I would echo the thoughts of builtx49....If you would be the Laughing Cavalier read carefully it is great advice!
This is a sad reflection on your social skills,I would echo the thoughts of builtx49....If you would be the Laughing Cavalier read carefully it is great advice!
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I’m talking about over text brah
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Plinco
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They want you to be honest with them so that they can game you better.
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Are you talking after sex?
Doctor Europeo
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"I was thinking about how much I like to have some peace and quiet after bustin a nut"
Gedmun
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My bad
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.