You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
thank you rioBobby Rio said:...its because your boring.
I agree with the second part, but I don't think conversations become not fun because YOU are boring. I think the girl is just as responsible. She has to contribute to the conversation. When talking to the girl, your goal is always to find out if she is good enough for YOU. If she's not saying anything interesting, then there's no reason for you to be attracted to her, so who cares if the conversation is boring? Obviously she's not good enough for you anyway. If you follow sosuave then you know asking about her and listening to her talk is the best way to talk to chicks. So if she's doing most of the talking, how is it your fault that the conversation is boring?Bobby Rio said:If you're not having fun in your conversations its because your boring.
Turn the conversation into anything you want it to become. Push the limits and entertain yourself.