You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
thank you rioBobby Rio said:...its because your boring.
I agree with the second part, but I don't think conversations become not fun because YOU are boring. I think the girl is just as responsible. She has to contribute to the conversation. When talking to the girl, your goal is always to find out if she is good enough for YOU. If she's not saying anything interesting, then there's no reason for you to be attracted to her, so who cares if the conversation is boring? Obviously she's not good enough for you anyway. If you follow sosuave then you know asking about her and listening to her talk is the best way to talk to chicks. So if she's doing most of the talking, how is it your fault that the conversation is boring?Bobby Rio said:If you're not having fun in your conversations its because your boring.
Turn the conversation into anything you want it to become. Push the limits and entertain yourself.