Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
thank you rioBobby Rio said:...its because your boring.
I agree with the second part, but I don't think conversations become not fun because YOU are boring. I think the girl is just as responsible. She has to contribute to the conversation. When talking to the girl, your goal is always to find out if she is good enough for YOU. If she's not saying anything interesting, then there's no reason for you to be attracted to her, so who cares if the conversation is boring? Obviously she's not good enough for you anyway. If you follow sosuave then you know asking about her and listening to her talk is the best way to talk to chicks. So if she's doing most of the talking, how is it your fault that the conversation is boring?Bobby Rio said:If you're not having fun in your conversations its because your boring.
Turn the conversation into anything you want it to become. Push the limits and entertain yourself.