gomariners51
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the weather is starting to get nice where im at, what are you guys favorite things to do/dates with a girl?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What are you favorite date/things to do with a girl
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Go karts and alcohol.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Ice skating and going to the zoo.
If you are anywhere with fresh water springs or other diving hotspots with clear water, go snorkling. It is cheap, easy, and a lot of fun. Chances are she has never been before.
The shooting range is always a good afternoon activity too. Most girls haven't shot a gun before and would love to learn. For some reason it gives you a bit of a mysterious vibe too when she finds out you know how to shoot. I dont know why
The shooting range is always a good afternoon activity too. Most girls haven't shot a gun before and would love to learn. For some reason it gives you a bit of a mysterious vibe too when she finds out you know how to shoot. I dont know why
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
MikeYikes122
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If it's a first date, just go get some coffee somewhere or get some drinks (if you are old enough).
I've been doing that for a long time now, and it's become my pick-and-roll. It's low pressure. It's not time-consuming. And it's pretty easy to build a rapport and talk openly in that situation.
As far as first dates go, don't plan out anything elaborate or try to impress. I had a friend recently spend all day cooking this girl food for their first date. And when it got to be dinner time, she didn't show up and turned her phone off. I didn't have the heart to tell him this, but doing something like he did is a sure-fire way to get a flake.
If you're talking second or third date kind of activities, comedy clubs are always fun if you have one in your area. I don't know what it is, but it always seems to help build a rapport. It's probably all the laughter and the jokes.
I've been doing that for a long time now, and it's become my pick-and-roll. It's low pressure. It's not time-consuming. And it's pretty easy to build a rapport and talk openly in that situation.
As far as first dates go, don't plan out anything elaborate or try to impress. I had a friend recently spend all day cooking this girl food for their first date. And when it got to be dinner time, she didn't show up and turned her phone off. I didn't have the heart to tell him this, but doing something like he did is a sure-fire way to get a flake.
If you're talking second or third date kind of activities, comedy clubs are always fun if you have one in your area. I don't know what it is, but it always seems to help build a rapport. It's probably all the laughter and the jokes.
BeyondCharm
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I have season tickets to sporting events that I actually enjoy going to. That gives me a consistent lineup of activities and the events are action packed and entertaining and leave a great impression.
I usually do coffee for first dates and I always do something after coffee if I'm feelin her and want to spend more time. I don't like to spend the entire time talking because it can seem too much like an interview so I like to mix action/talk/banter up.
I like going on drives and hikes and I highly recommend learning some good "lookout spots" and scenic drives where you can drive and park and look at a nice view.
Driving to parks/coastal trails and then walking around is a good one.
As long as you lead confidently, you can do almost anything.
You can go tour art galleries together.
BUT... the absolute best first-date is to take her to run errands and chores with you
I usually do coffee for first dates and I always do something after coffee if I'm feelin her and want to spend more time. I don't like to spend the entire time talking because it can seem too much like an interview so I like to mix action/talk/banter up.
I like going on drives and hikes and I highly recommend learning some good "lookout spots" and scenic drives where you can drive and park and look at a nice view.
Driving to parks/coastal trails and then walking around is a good one.
As long as you lead confidently, you can do almost anything.
You can go tour art galleries together.
BUT... the absolute best first-date is to take her to run errands and chores with you
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.