Naughty Ninja
Banned
That's some deep ish right there. Really gives me something to think about. Thanks!TheLoner said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What are you doing this weekend?
- Thread starter TheLoner
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
There's a fine line between loners who are comfortable in their own skin who don't need validation from other people to have a good time and loners who cry woe is me everywhere they go. Be the former.TheLoner said:
starfishandcoffee
Don Juan
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I work full time and go to school slightly over half time (soon to be full time).
I somehow manage to shoehorn getting dates into all of this. I work weekends, though, so I might just go poon hunting with my roommate.
I somehow manage to shoehorn getting dates into all of this. I work weekends, though, so I might just go poon hunting with my roommate.
sageproduct
Banned
Hey guys when are we getting dis party started!!!!!!!!!!?????
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I tried to bring "Alexander" and "Kim" from my soccer team, they told me "they might show up" and then texted me "Hey I can't make it, see you in practice".sageproduct said:
So, at least they acknowledged my pathetic existence,
but I will have to cancel.
It is Friday Night!!! And I am all by myself. Just like every other Friday Night
sageproduct
Banned
Hey Loner,
Saturday Night and I am sitting here by myself.
Why don't you come over and have some apple cider with me
Bring your Wii and we can play some Mario Party
Saturday Night and I am sitting here by myself.
Why don't you come over and have some apple cider with me
Bring your Wii and we can play some Mario Party
JohnChops
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Hang yourself and then post a video on youtube so you'll be popular. I say party at the LONERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRZTheLoner said:Yup,
Sitting here all by myself, on a Friday Night.
While everyone else is having fun
Masculinity
Master Don Juan
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Homework, writing papers, but also find time to go out with my buddy and crash parties. At the parties (or while out), we come accross HB's. When we come across Hb's, we approach them. When we approach them...see where this is going? Haha!
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
to rejection then sadness then more rejection then lonerism and eventually to foreveraloneness:nervous:Robyn923b said:
Until about two hours ago, I wasn't even aware that it was the weekend. Just lucky I hooked up last night or else I might be . . . The Loner too.
Let's see. Stinko De Mayo and the K-Y Derby are coming up. I wonder if The Loner has major plans to buy friends for those events?
Let's see. Stinko De Mayo and the K-Y Derby are coming up. I wonder if The Loner has major plans to buy friends for those events?