Naughty Ninja
Banned
That's some deep ish right there. Really gives me something to think about. Thanks!TheLoner said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What are you doing this weekend?
- Thread starter TheLoner
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
There's a fine line between loners who are comfortable in their own skin who don't need validation from other people to have a good time and loners who cry woe is me everywhere they go. Be the former.TheLoner said:
starfishandcoffee
Don Juan
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I work full time and go to school slightly over half time (soon to be full time).
I somehow manage to shoehorn getting dates into all of this. I work weekends, though, so I might just go poon hunting with my roommate.
I somehow manage to shoehorn getting dates into all of this. I work weekends, though, so I might just go poon hunting with my roommate.
sageproduct
Banned
Hey guys when are we getting dis party started!!!!!!!!!!?????
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I tried to bring "Alexander" and "Kim" from my soccer team, they told me "they might show up" and then texted me "Hey I can't make it, see you in practice".sageproduct said:
So, at least they acknowledged my pathetic existence,
but I will have to cancel.
It is Friday Night!!! And I am all by myself. Just like every other Friday Night
sageproduct
Banned
Hey Loner,
Saturday Night and I am sitting here by myself.
Why don't you come over and have some apple cider with me
Bring your Wii and we can play some Mario Party
Saturday Night and I am sitting here by myself.
Why don't you come over and have some apple cider with me
Bring your Wii and we can play some Mario Party
JohnChops
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Hang yourself and then post a video on youtube so you'll be popular. I say party at the LONERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRZTheLoner said:Yup,
Sitting here all by myself, on a Friday Night.
While everyone else is having fun
Masculinity
Master Don Juan
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Homework, writing papers, but also find time to go out with my buddy and crash parties. At the parties (or while out), we come accross HB's. When we come across Hb's, we approach them. When we approach them...see where this is going? Haha!
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
to rejection then sadness then more rejection then lonerism and eventually to foreveraloneness:nervous:Robyn923b said:
Until about two hours ago, I wasn't even aware that it was the weekend. Just lucky I hooked up last night or else I might be . . . The Loner too.
Let's see. Stinko De Mayo and the K-Y Derby are coming up. I wonder if The Loner has major plans to buy friends for those events?
Let's see. Stinko De Mayo and the K-Y Derby are coming up. I wonder if The Loner has major plans to buy friends for those events?