What are the biggest iOi's

[Thechamp]

What are the biggest iOi's

 

[dustmuffin]

I have no clue....I just act. Ask for the number...On a date go for the kiss....Invite her over and go in for the kill......I don't think I act....I find out if she is interested eventually...

 

[nismo-4]

When she has sex with you, and even then it's not a sure IOI.

I'd also say not confusing you.

There are a bunch of sure IOD's such as:
1. Flaking
2. Making excuses
3. Not returning your calls
4. Playing games
5. This list can go ad infinitum.

Case closed.

 

[Trunks]

When she has sex with you, and even then it's not a sure IOI.

I'd also say not confusing you.

There are a bunch of sure IOD's such as:
1. Flaking
2. Making excuses
3. Not returning your calls
4. Playing games
5. This list can go ad infinitum.

Case closed.

Some form of playing games is not necessarily IOD, but it is behavior that as soon as you encounter it, you should let women know only ends up not taking them seriously. It is true though, that the higher the IL, the less game playing she'll pull.

 

[fastlife]

Of course there are the obvious one--eye contact, hair playing, finding excuses to talk to you, etc. But there's a couple that you might mistake for negative interest.

For me the #1 sign of a girl's sexual interest is that she gets offended/pissed/frustrated at something I say really early on in the interaction. Seems a little counter-intuitive, but it's indicative of heavy investment before she even knows who you are--to the extent that her reaction is totally disproportional to the situation (often harmless, maybe ambiguous remarks). It's kind of a case where she throws the whole **** test upfront (she's subconsciously giving you an opportunity to provide her with a rapid DOWN/UP emotional experience where the only way to totally diffuse the situation is sex).

Another one that guys might confuse with disinterest is when a girl is visibly conflicted--maybe even avoiding you or a situation where the two of you might end up alone, avoiding eye contact, or becoming really quiet. Basically making every effort to put on the breaks because she knows that if she puts herself in that position she won't be able to stop herself from being carried away by her natural desires.

But really you should focus more on if she's doing enough to interest you instead of figuring out her levels of interest. In a lot of cases, dudes are approaching too late (waiting on signs from her) and bailing too early (mistaking more complex emotional reactions for disinterest), limiting themselves to only the really obvious lays.

 

[marmel75]

The only IOI that matters is if you escalate to sex and she doesn't stop you.

Stop worrying about IOIs they are completely irrelevant. Lots of guys have screwed themselves out of getting laid because they try to "read IOIs" on dates instead of assuming the woman is interested and acting accordingly.

 

[RangerMIke]

She initiates contact... she puts herself in your line of sight.

Eye contact... she touches you. She works to keep conversation going.

 

[Thechamp]

This

Of course there are the obvious one--eye contact, hair playing, finding excuses to talk to you, etc. But there's a couple that you might mistake for negative interest.

For me the #1 sign of a girl's sexual interest is that she gets offended/pissed/frustrated at something I say really early on in the interaction. Seems a little counter-intuitive, but it's indicative of heavy investment before she even knows who you are--to the extent that her reaction is totally disproportional to the situation (often harmless, maybe ambiguous remarks). It's kind of a case where she throws the whole **** test upfront (she's subconsciously giving you an opportunity to provide her with a rapid DOWN/UP emotional experience where the only way to totally diffuse the situation is sex).

Another one that guys might confuse with disinterest is when a girl is visibly conflicted--maybe even avoiding you or a situation where the two of you might end up alone, avoiding eye contact, or becoming really quiet. Basically making every effort to put on the breaks because she knows that if she puts herself in that position she won't be able to stop herself from being carried away by her natural desires.

But really you should focus more on if she's doing enough to interest you instead of figuring out her levels of interest. In a lot of cases, dudes are approaching too late (waiting on signs from her) and bailing too early (mistaking more complex emotional reactions for disinterest), limiting themselves to only the really obvious lays.

This happens to me today , I
Told her to get off the phone save me some internet,then she asked the lady I worked with what I said gave me the flighthlyiest look I have ever seen the lady I worked with told her smiled at the lady, I just ignored it I thought the look she gave me means a iOd more like it.

 

[raider87]

Espi has a good point.

I've shown interest in women in the past, only to be rejected. These women then had time to think about me as an option and began to give me the signs of interest and even pursue me.You've gotta let them know it can happen.