"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
wHAT ARE THE BEST OPEN END QUESTIONS TO ASK A GIRL TO GET HER TO OPEN UP 2 U
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
white_hype
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what do you want to do after high school/college etc?
thejuice
Master Don Juan
Heres something better...
If you had a million dollars, what would you buy?
If you had the power to fly/of invisibility, what would you do?
You get the point? Questions that stimulate her imagination are much better than "what are your goals for the future", blah, blah, blah, boring. You may not be familiar with asking questions but i assure you, most guys ask those questions. So, itll be better for your appeal if you ask questions that arent so common. If you can make up your own rep of questions to ask, youll be figuring her out faster than she realizes
DJmonster
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Don't forget to ask fun and stupid questions too. Sometimes they can lead to interesting conversations. Ask her, who would win in a fight between Mr. Rogers and Barney? Or, whats the deal with handicapped people getting all the close spaces? (pretend to take a stand and hate handicapped people)
"I've read that people who wear glasses like this want to show how intelligent they are, what do you think about it?"
"So, you wear contacts instead of glasses now? It means..."
"Oh my, nice lipstick, fingertips and a makeup. Do you ..."
A girl dresses in a certain way for a reason. Guess the reason, present it to her and watch her react
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
NaturallySelected
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diplomatic_lies
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Her: This is a cool place.
Me: Why?
Her: Cuz the music is good, the waiters are nice, and its real comfy
Me: Why?
Her: Well....because.
Me: Why?
Her: Um, are you ok?
Me: Why?
I think some of the earlier ones, What are your dreams etc etc.Might come off a bit strong when first meeting someone.